CSA can break us, but it does not make us. In marriage and parenting it takes 2 good role models, not one.
My mom was a lousy wife and worse mother.
I married the most sweetest most caring woman on the planet. I never did any of the crap to her or our kids you guys write about. More so I'm there to catch her tears all the time too. We aint special. We just get love and family I suppose. We both do.
I know some men who never were abused as kids who are real Tools as husbands and Dads.
I know some women who are lousy wives and shitty moms.
What is right or wrong in any home is not going to stem from CSA or the lack there of.
There are no excuses for being a shitty husband or Dad. None for being a marginal mother or wife either.
I wish every woman here all the happiness there can be.
I wish every man here has a wife just like mine.
Happy Holidays all. Here in NJ we are waiting for the older 2 to get back from campus. As my wife told them yesterday, don't buy him a thing, you know all he wants is you guys home here safe and happy.
Ya see, she truly gets me.....
"You can get far in life by pushing except through a door marked PULL...." Profile quote in my son's senior year HS Yearbook.