This may be old stuff to others but it was a big deal to me. My T told me I should be careful what I call myself. To say, "I am abused" or "I am a victim" or "I am depressed" gives more strength to those ideas and identities. They are not my names or ALL that I am! I am a human being who is growing and changing. I am a child of God. I am a man. I am a husband. I am a father. I am a teacher. I am an artist. I am a friend. I am a professional colleague. (I am also a survivor - but it's not my main identity - even though it sometimes feels like it is overwhelming all the others.)I am MY SELF - mine - and I decide WHO and WHAT I AM - not the circumstances that others have forced upon me.


How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
Habakkuk 1:2-3