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#374861 - 11/10/11 01:20 PM More on Sports and CSA
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
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Loc: Lyons, CO USA
The myth of the 'monster' pedophileBy Don McPherson, Special to CNN
November 9, 2011 -- Updated 1634 GMT (0034 HKT)
Don McPherson met Jerry Sandusky at Penn State, had great respect for him
He says if it's true Sandusky raped boys, it would fit profile of a pedophile
Pedophiles are not monstrous misfits, he says, they are often pillars of community
Penn State had a lot to gain by upholding a clean sports reputation, he writes
Editor's note: Don McPherson is a member of the College Football Hall of Fame, a feminist and social justice educator. Follow him on Twitter, @donmcpherson.

(CNN) -- I met Jerry Sandusky in the late 1990s. I was at Penn State conducting a workshop with coaches on sexual violence. It was a few years after my retirement from professional football and a decade removed from my days at Syracuse University, where I competed against Sandusky's defense on the playing field.

I had great respect for Sandusky as a coach and remember his masterful game plan in the 1986 national championship, when Penn State defeated Miami with its impeccable strategy, devised by the architect of "Linebacker U."

I spoke with Sandusky and found he was not a typical defensive coach. He was pleasant and passionate about his charity, The Second Mile, and the work it did to help young men find their way. I was thoroughly impressed.

If the allegations that Sandusky sexually abused young boys are true, it would defy the common misperception that pedophiles are monstrous misfits. But it would fit in with the true profile.

Joe Paterno's response criticized When I began working in the field of sexual and domestic violence prevention in 1995, I was stunned to find that more than 80% of rape survivors know the men who attack them. The vast majority of sexual predators rely on an insidiously derived trust that not only provides access to their victims, but works to maintain their anonymity even in the light of day. They often stand on a broader, established reputation and use threats and gifts to maintain their victims' silence.

When I served on the board of Stop It Now, which is focused on the prevention of sexual abuse of children, I learned that more than 90% of abused children know their attacker. Once again, this defies our misguided belief that predators are like lions in the tall grass waiting to attack. The overwhelming reality is that they are individuals who manipulate trust and positions of power to gain access to their victims and control them. It is this reality that has led to such terms as "intimate partner violence" and "interpersonal violence" and "acquaintance rape." Trust, access and familiarity are the tools of sustained abuse.

It is important to note that, in most cases, men are the abusers. This is essential in developing prevention strategies that are grounded in an accurate assessment of who commits the crimes.

Ignoring the gender of the abusers fits in with our broad view that sexual predators are "monsters," or social deviants living in shadows. We think of men as the sturdy keepers of social status and power, and the standard bearers of a decent society that plays by the rules.

Sandusky established a level of trust with his charity work consistent with the commitment he showed for the institutions he represented for most of his life. As a football coach at Penn State, Sandusky was the epitome of its image and reputation. The program under Joe Paterno is considered one of the cleanest in college football, boasting high graduation rates and on-field performance. The image, right down to the Nittany Lion uniform, has been conservative and upstanding.

As a prominent coach in that system, Sandusky was a central figure. It's not hard to understand why many around him might have a vested interest in maintaining that perception. Penn State stood above in the hypercompetitive and often unscrupulous world of college sports, and this served as a recruiting tool and an assurance to parents of promising high school football players. It's also not hard to understand why parents of troubled young men would want their sons to have the influence of the environment that Penn State and Sandusky provided.

It would be convenient to consider a child abuser a "monster." It would be convenient to call the alleged coverup a "mistake" by a couple of college administrators who sought to protect their institutional reputation. That talk has already begun, in part because we don't want to look at the issue of child sexual abuse or abandon the beliefs we hold, including and especially our faith in sports.

But that faith and trust is waning. In an attempt to preserve a storied reputation, Joe Paterno has called on all "Penn Staters to trust what that (institution) stands for." If these charges are true, that same veil of trust might have allowed a child sexual predator to go undetected.

The world of sports contains many good men. But there is also a culture of silence upon which the myth of men thrives. We often speak of sports in terms of courage and integrity. Those altruistic qualities must transcend the field and be brought to bear for the protection of our children.

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#374915 - 11/10/11 10:11 PM Re: More on Sports and CSA [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
GoodHope Offline

Registered: 07/05/11
Posts: 428
Thanks for posting this. I put it on my FB page and got some interesting discussion going. If the only good thing that comes out of this horrific scenario is that people are talking about CSA, then I'm all for it. Any other information you run across is greatly appreciated.

Wife of a survivor

#374917 - 11/10/11 10:36 PM Re: More on Sports and CSA [Re: GoodHope]
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/28/08
Posts: 2615
Loc: Central PA
I read this on the original site it came from... I have to be honest... I was a tad offended by it.

Yes, I understand he makes some good points and does a good job of making it clear that perps are almost always people the kids/parents know... but then to paint all perps as male when statistics are showing more and more the reality of things? So he's part right and still horribly stuck in "myth" in other places.

But as for a monster... Sandusky is a monster... one who is good at putting on a friendly face. Many predators, especially the ones that are experts at what they do, are monsters who know how to play the game. They groom even the parents into thinking they are nice people.


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