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#373813 - 10/30/11 11:02 PM Haunted
witsend Offline

Registered: 08/07/11
Posts: 5
I am so broken. I posted once before about what to do about being in love with a survivor in addictive addiction. Since then I quit my job, sold him our home, backed my car and drove.

So now here I am. Broken and haunted by what could have been. He's not talking to me, won't return phone calls, which may be a blessing but feels like crazy making. The only thing I know is what I have learned here... that if he won't take responsibilty for his own recovery there is NOTHING I can do.

It has become really clear how my own copendancy is out of control. That I need to take care of me and finding some wholeness. But it is so hard to let go of the man I know is in there, the beauty and strength and heart.

My biggest fears are that he will hit a bottom and call me to 'help' (read fix it) or that he will get recovery and want to try again and it will be too late.

Thanks for reading, I just needed to let that out amongst people who understand.


#373824 - 10/31/11 01:05 AM Re: Haunted [Re: witsend]
GoodHope Offline

Registered: 07/05/11
Posts: 428
I'm so sorry. You did the only thing you could do.

Wife of a survivor

#373825 - 10/31/11 01:14 AM Re: Haunted [Re: GoodHope]
witsend Offline

Registered: 08/07/11
Posts: 5
are you sure?? My heart aches that there was something else... now we are both lost and now we are alone.

Edited by witsend (10/31/11 01:15 AM)

#373826 - 10/31/11 01:33 AM Re: Haunted [Re: witsend]
hopeandtry Offline

Registered: 07/29/10
Posts: 476
There is no guarantee that you can't get back together, but you must take care of yourself right now. Try to focus on that right now.


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