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#37272 - 11/21/03 12:40 AM Some Problems
Kieran1 Offline

Registered: 01/30/03
Posts: 33
Loc: Canada
Hello to all. I have been having a few problems for the last little while and it seems I will have to go back and see a psychologist. Unfortunately,I have begun to get nightmares again,which for some reason my doctor feels must be dealt with. Just when I thought I was well on my way to recovery,it feels like having a relapse.Is this a common thing with any of you guys? The nightmares are extremely real and honestly so frightening I wake-up in the middle of the night sometimes crying my eyes out.They (the nightmares)seem to convey a constant darkness and actually I have woken up from a dream thinking someone is actually under the bed and the hand reaches up and grabs my leg.Honestly,it is SO REAL.Now ,I know how these dreams can be so real for many people,abused or not,but this has to be resolved.You know,it's almost like being a little kid,afraid to go to sleep at night.Of course,it wakes my wife up and she has to hold me tight to reassure me.Like going back to my childhood.I'm glad to have all you brothers out there who have gone through all this,and I hope that I can move through this and get back on track.Thanks,guys for listening.

#37273 - 11/21/03 01:46 AM Re: Some Problems
theo Offline

Registered: 09/28/03
Posts: 1122
those nightmares and the terror are very real and very common amongst trauma survivors. this has been the bread and butter of my own experiences except mine had been waking nightmares where it starts in a dream then i am conscious and aware but in the middle of a flashback and dissociate right after. the last three weeks it has reversed and i am having the dissociation and flashbacks while wide awake. i went for a long time without having any significant episodes or recall and thought i was on my way to integrating the trauma when the latest wave hit me three or four weeks ago, and it has gotten worse. sorry, meant to be more supportive and upbeat, but i wanted you to know that this does happen frequently to many people who are survivors. if i can help do not hesitate to pm me.

journey well,
theo dewolfe

- It is gift, and gift will find its way
- I inherit through my choice. I build through my affirmation. It is through my freedom that I nurture, or fade into autonomy
- I was not given to serve life, but to embrace it

#37274 - 11/21/03 05:42 AM Re: Some Problems
ScottyTodd Offline
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Registered: 02/12/03
Posts: 1561
Loc: Pennsylvania
Kieran - As Theo said, the nightmares or night terrors are common among survivors. If you were ever in a bad car accident, the flashbacks are similar to the vision and anxiety we get from flashbacks of the accident; however, the intensity and reality-like aspects present as totally more terrifying and emotional. Your T sees you often enough to steer you where you need to be.

There have been several posts on the theme of nightmares. You may want to dig them up and see what the other guys have shared.


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