Maybe l should stay out of this thread but this might shed some light.
As a survivor of adult sexual assault, l was 19 and 100% hetro when a man cleverly in five minutes built false trust and deception. l never said anything for three decades.
I have noticed my family is very supportive of medical conditions but not mental health issues and conditions. They let me live in the streets after l lost my business and couldn't afford the $550.00 morgage in Texas. l almost died.
I learned the hard way that hostile environs are unhealthy, and my psychotic/neurotic behavior creates turmoil on certain secondary victims. I understand they love me but supportive efforts brings them emotional pain.
But sometimes l want to tell them:
I'll trade you everything you got, all your baggage...whatever eats your lunch for five minutes of mine...l bet you'll want to trade back in a minute.
BTW, predators can never call themselves survivors. I have talked to a few, they minimize what they did and "turn the table" blaming the child, they are pathetic lowlifes who have no chance of becoming a victor.
Bless all the supporters who do make it to the finish line...your strength and endurance will surely be tested beyond olympian mettle.
Post Script: Annie, definitely not cool what has happened in your family, yes protect yourself and children. I have noticed some survivors of CSA are aggressive and others passive, reads to me your husband has agressive behaviors. Listen to your inner voice and gut instincts. Hope l'm not out of line here, Doug.
Edited by men_of_hrts.dbw (10/02/11 08:30 PM)
Edit Reason: add P.S.
Doug>ASA Survivor (1x)
ECV 6001/MaTuCa Chapter 1849
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"What Say the Brethren"
"Hang the Bastards"