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#370119 - 09/14/11 08:50 PM Re: Sagging is a sexual thing, right? [Re: Driftwood]
Shaun The Sheep Offline

Registered: 03/17/10
Posts: 188
Loc: West Coast
Dunno, man. Like I said - sometimes the triggers feel like a splinter that's just below your skin. You know it's there and you feel like 'this time, I should be able to get it.'

For times like this where things really clicked, there were 100 times where things didn't come together and I had to accept with a lot of sadness and regret, that I had to let it go for now.

What I can say, if you're struggling to make sense of your feelings, is that acting out with porn or masturbation or anything else invariably does not resolve any issues for you. It doesn't give you any clarity, doesn't help you understand anything better. If it does anything, it covers your thoughts with guilt for allowing those concepts to control you one more time.

It's your choice if you want to masturbate or watch porn ... I'm simply pointing out what hasn't worked for me.

#370133 - 09/15/11 01:52 AM Re: Sagging is a sexual thing, right? [Re: Shaun The Sheep]
Driftwood Offline

Registered: 05/27/11
Posts: 86
Loc: Colorado

Don't know how this happens (and scares me a bit to ponder the implications), but I think you may have your finger on the pulse of something. Thing is, I've been struggling with my thoughts, specifically with clarity and looking at reality and simultaneously wondering if my easy escape into things like porn/masturbation is affecting that and feeling that maybe I want to check that...
I can't look at porn or even masturbate guilt-free (well, that's a whole set of other problems I may need to look into at sometime). But the point is, what I want right now is understanding. I want to make sense of my feelings. What I need is focused attention in the present. And I think I'm willing to make some sacrifices to see that happen. Just need some motivation. Thanks for motivating me. (And thank you, universe, for this site.)

#370260 - 09/16/11 01:19 PM Re: Sagging is a sexual thing, right? [Re: Driftwood]
Shaun The Sheep Offline

Registered: 03/17/10
Posts: 188
Loc: West Coast
I guess what it means is that we're all going through the same thing in roughly the same way. Glad that you find it so valuable.


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