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#367044 - 07/31/11 07:38 AM Re: fuck this [Re: Tedure]
TheBobcatAgain Offline

Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 524
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.

Buddy, you have a voice in the back of your head telling you lies and bad things about yourself. I know, because I have that same voice, as I'm sure many other guys here do too.

The trick is to stop listening to it. Tell it to get lost. Tell it to stop beating you up. Tell that voice, "Fuck this!" and go listen to someone one of your brothers here who loves you.

Try to listen to us, bro. Listen when we tell you that you are GOOD. Stop listening when that voice tells you that you are bad.

In time, that voice will fade to silence, and you will understand that its control over you was merely an illusion.

God bless you, buddy. Take care, okay?

Your brother,


You don't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

#367328 - 08/03/11 11:32 PM - [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
exhale Offline

Registered: 08/12/10
Posts: 101

Edited by exhale (01/14/13 04:25 AM)

#367333 - 08/03/11 11:54 PM Re: fuck this [Re: exhale]
Darkheart Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 331
Loc: Illinois
Jesper...the voice still talks me sometimes too. But over time, the good voice gets louder smile

You are good...and you are loved smile

My Story...

#367411 - 08/04/11 07:17 PM - [Re: Darkheart]
exhale Offline

Registered: 08/12/10
Posts: 101

Edited by exhale (01/14/13 04:25 AM)

#367425 - 08/05/11 12:54 AM Re: fuck this [Re: exhale]
rcm Offline

Registered: 08/24/07
Posts: 156
Loc: Boston, MA
Hey Jesper, does it help to chat? Look me up if you need.

Prince Zuko: [looking at a map] How am I going to find the Avatar? He is clearly a master of evasive maneuvering.
Sokka: [cut to him, looking at the same map] You have no idea where you're going, do you?

#367539 - 08/06/11 10:37 AM Re: fuck this [Re: Tedure]
Aberrant30 Offline

Registered: 01/29/10
Posts: 139
Loc: I live on the Emerald Coast, F...
i am sorry jesper i know how you feel.

"The beginning of eternity
The end of time and space
The beginning of every end,
And the end of every place."
Hint: It's in front of you right now.
(Formerly known as Aberrant30

#367776 - 08/09/11 05:09 PM Re: fuck this [Re: exhale]
john22 Offline

Registered: 10/16/06
Posts: 242
Loc: Europe-Belgium
Hey Jesper

I realise people care about you and your well being. As I do too. But it's not a waste of our time. I will be persistent in "wasting" my time to show you that I care about you and love you. You're worth all of that time.

Please be kind to yourself


"Men are not prisoners of fate, only prisoners of their own mind" - Franklin D. Roosevelt

#367801 - 08/10/11 12:05 AM Re: fuck this [Re: john22]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 01/01/11
Posts: 1595
Loc: California

My heart goes out to you. I've been there. I often don't FEEL LOVED either.

My grandmother taught me something very significant which I didn't realize was profound and true until recently.

REAL love is a verb. It is something you do, not something you feel.

When a person takes the time to listen when they have other things they need to do, that is love. When a person takes ANY time of their day to go out of their way to be polite, courteous, kind, thoughtful, it is with love. it is a choice.

I think we in western societies have been hoodwinked by hollywood into believing that romantic form of love is the supreme form of love. But it is fleeting and temporary. 95% of people who fall in love fall out of love with the person they fell in love with. It's based on a feeling. And feelings always change. Just my humble opinion.

It was difficult for me to choose to change my belief about the nature of love, but once I started taking a look at it, I started to see that indeed there were people all around me who are loving me, even if I can't feel it. I have to choose to look for it, because with my crooked mindset of self hate and loathing, it is hard for me to see.

I wish you well.


#367870 - 08/10/11 08:38 PM Re: fuck this [Re: Magellan]
believe Offline

Registered: 09/06/10
Posts: 1
a certain someone wrote this especially for you..

I have a friend i really care for
how much he'll never know
he carries a burden which is heavy
weighed down by pain and sorrow

I try to make him understand
how can i make him see?
there are people here who love him
love him, unconditionally

I know he's going to make it
so much, it makes me cry
i want him to believe this too
the belief i have in this guy

unspoken thoughts and feelings
emotions good and bad
questions with no answers
the acceptance of being sad

deserted, lonely, all alone
isolated from the main
immersed in a sea of questions
confusion, fear and pain

broken sleep and worry
marbled logic and doubt
stuck fast, trapped inside
wondering if there's a way out

anger, distrust, impatience
in a blur of right and wrong
swimming in a sea of tears
wondering how to belong

its all part of the picture
how can i make him see?
he's not alone, others understand
they understand just like me

a mind that is a box
a heart both empty and full
memories that will not go away
a spirit that will never dull

even if i dont know the answers
i want you to understand
i will be here for you if you need me
even if just to hold your hand

so in case there's any confusion
of this chance Sinead will avail
to say I love you Jesper and
you're a brave little soldier exhale

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