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#366672 - 07/26/11 11:44 PM Re: Guilt and Shame (maybe triggering) [Re: trb1345]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA

yes, i loved my abuser, my main perp.

he was my older brother and was my surrogate father. my father was cold, didnt like me, and totally unavaiable for any fatherlyness what so ever.

my abuse was of the kinder gentler variety. he groomed me to be his toy from the time i was 4. so it became so natural and usual that i didnt realize how much it had damaged me.

i understand how you feel and honor your struggle. PM me if you want more details or thoughts. i would be glad to share with you man.

take care. you are not alone, you are not alone, and you are cared about with me and with all of us here.



If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram

#366783 - 07/28/11 01:59 AM . [Re: pbert53]
bardo213 Offline

Registered: 11/21/07
Posts: 812

Edited by bardo213 (06/22/13 08:09 PM)

#366799 - 07/28/11 08:12 AM Re: Guilt and Shame (maybe triggering) [Re: bardo213]
Morning Star Offline

Registered: 12/21/04
Posts: 1124
Loc: Home
Originally Posted By: lynchmob212001
Learning to be vulnerable is a stepping stone in recovery....

~ It's over!...Let go of Thy Past, Remember Thy Self ~

Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

#367007 - 07/30/11 10:16 PM . [Re: Morning Star]
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Edited by bardo213 (06/22/13 08:10 PM)

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