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#366339 - 07/21/11 05:43 PM Something that has helped me a lot lately
katie1205 Offline

Registered: 07/03/11
Posts: 48
I was sharing this with someone else and nobody told me it or anything, it just came to me one day. When other people are spewing crap, I just think to myself "Well, consider the source" and I don't know why but that helps me let go of the angry and everything. I mean in one ear and out the other. I just do. Especially with Adam's pretend it never happened, it's no big deal, blah blah blah family. I just think "consider the source" and that's how I deal with it. I know it's so simple it may seem stupid but if you think about it there's a lot of wisdom to it.

#366344 - 07/21/11 07:32 PM Re: Something that has helped me a lot lately [Re: katie1205]
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Registered: 07/28/10
Posts: 476
It makes sense. I don't say this exact phrase all the time but I often remind myself "Think about this person's background" or "Think about how this person acts themselves." It does help. I do this with my ex, too, and while I am not excusing him, it helps to take things less personally.


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