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#365974 - 07/14/11 05:23 PM its finally over
sally123 Offline

Registered: 11/29/10
Posts: 54
Well I join my sisters aloved and hope today as my long struggle to love my bf is over. I know I did everything I could, he still walked away, after everything he can't love me and it is pretty crushing. Only yall know the real reason behind all my pain. Wishing love and peace to all, thank you so much for everything! We all tried our best wink

#365983 - 07/14/11 09:38 PM Re: its finally over [Re: sally123]
whome Offline

Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1743
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
Sorry it came to this.

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#365991 - 07/15/11 12:24 AM Re: its finally over [Re: whome]
hopeandtry Offline

Registered: 07/29/10
Posts: 476
Sorry to hear this. Stay as long as you need to for support and your own healing, but we understand if you need to leave MS. PM me if you need to.

#366021 - 07/15/11 02:19 PM Re: its finally over [Re: hopeandtry]
aloved1 Offline

Registered: 02/22/11
Posts: 65
Loc: Texas
sally, I am truly sorry to hear this. We do understand the reasons behind your pain and we are here for you. Please know you are not alone. As H4H says, PM me anytime...

#366022 - 07/15/11 02:21 PM Re: its finally over [Re: hopeandtry]
lovingBen Offline

Registered: 06/19/11
Posts: 38
I'm so sorry too. we are all here for you if want or need. like the rest of us, i will thinking of you today :-)

#366027 - 07/15/11 05:14 PM Re: its finally over [Re: lovingBen]
sally123 Offline

Registered: 11/29/10
Posts: 54
Thank you all... I'm pretty crushed, my heart is so broken. Makes it worse he won't even talk to me, I'm sure I'm tucked away in a box somewhere. This is terrible pain...

#366037 - 07/15/11 10:48 PM Re: its finally over [Re: sally123]
loved1forever Offline

Registered: 05/29/11
Posts: 15

So sorry to hear this. I feel your pain. Please know there are people thinking of you and here to offer support. This is a great community. Hugs to you.
Take care of you.

#366058 - 07/16/11 08:14 AM Re: its finally over [Re: loved1forever]
katie1205 Offline

Registered: 07/03/11
Posts: 48
Not to get all religious on you as I am not that type but know that sometimes the plans for our lives or destinies if you will, don't make sense at the time we are going through them and are painful and hurt but someday somehow light will emerge from the darkness and there will be a feeling of great hope again.

When I worked with hemophiliacs in the 80s including my own brother, and lost literally over 100 of them to AIDS. At times, my brain never thought it would see the light of day again. Especially when I took care of my last one when he was dying in 2006, my very best friend, Jonathan. But I learned things that later have served me in life a great deal. It was a sucky way to learn but I did learn A LOT. And I am sure this ordeal you have gone through though not so obvious now, has taught you things you didn't even know which will serve you greatly later in life. At the very least through these wonderful men on here, you are educated about male sexual abuse and not everybody is.

Much love,


#366079 - 07/16/11 04:23 PM Re: its finally over [Re: katie1205]
sally123 Offline

Registered: 11/29/10
Posts: 54
Katie, these last years have taught me tremendous knowledge
about myself, and those who fight to understand the ways csa has effected their lives. There is always meaning and a bright side...
I think I needed to not analyze and just feel the sadness for a few days, as the pain is less than yesterday smile In the past I would try to angry or cold when in fact I just need to be with myself and comfort her through pain. I agree katie, there is meaning in all that we experience,


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