Hi Again WifeofA
Again sorry for your pain
This I am sure, is a hard time for you, I know it is no excuse, but survivors do act out like this some times. I think the best for you both to do right now, is talk, as painful as it is for both of you. Talk to him about his plans for treatment, if he is planning to see a therapist etc. Give him some ideas, but don't force the issue.
Tell him how you are feeling about the disclosure, shock dismay etc. And mostly if you find it in your heart at this stage, let him know that you don't think the worse of him because of his abuse. (Not his having an affair)
He is going through a tough time now, as I am sure you are, but, he is having issues about his manliness, and what you think is important. We survivors tend to make things worse by thinking the worst.
If you need support try and go to Al-anon or the sex addicts version of this. These groups will give you coping skills. Dont see this as an admission of a problem, but rather a group of people to give you advise.
I hope that your H will be open to therapy for his CSA, as it will impact on his life in future, in a big way. Just read some of the posts and you will realize.
Take it easy as you both have a lot to deal with right now.
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