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#363772 - 06/07/11 02:27 PM I'm feeling drained
jls Offline

Registered: 03/06/09
Posts: 1142
I'm feeling really drained lately. There's alot going on in my life that's taking alot out of me. Dealing with my abuse issues is certainly a big part of it but there's other stuff too. At work someone was killed, which I was a witness to. It was a violent death and I'm having a hard time with the memories of what happened. The mother of the victim has been using me as a support, which is fine since she certainly needs it, but this is draining too. Not her fault, but draining all the same. On top of all this I was punched in the face by a crack addict recently for which charges are pending. Apparently the accused is denying he did it, which is ridiculous since it was all caught on camera, but his denials means that I'll have to testify in court, which I don't look forward to. Anyways I just need a rest from all this, even from the abuse work for a while. Call it self preservation I guess. JS.

Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.

#363779 - 06/07/11 03:15 PM Re: I'm feeling drained [Re: jls]
Invictus65 Offline

Registered: 05/27/11
Posts: 6
I'm tired too. There is a limit to how much we can process. Be kind to yourself. You come first.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.


#363794 - 06/07/11 07:03 PM Re: I'm feeling drained [Re: jls]
whome Offline

Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1739
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
Don't forget to look out for number one "you" Your well being is the most important thing.

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#363879 - 06/08/11 11:27 PM Re: I'm feeling drained [Re: whome]
SamV Offline

Registered: 12/13/09
Posts: 5971
Loc: Sunnny, South East USA
Hey jls,

Giving support is quickly rewarding and draining at the same time.

You, as whome brings out, are paramount in recovery resources, you are the priority. Without a balance and solid you, there is nothing else positive for others from you.

Please see that your emotions are trying to tell you to refresh yourself. Meditate, become self aware, nature walks, make time for positive self affirmation for jls.

Please let us know how you are, you are being well thought of and supported,

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