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#362376 - 05/17/11 04:51 AM Keeping myself
hopeandtry Offline

Registered: 07/29/10
Posts: 476
The only person I can control whether or not I lose
is myself.

I will be my own best friend.

Others may walk away.
Others may fade away.
Others may pass away.

But if I keep myself healthy
and remember who I am
I will always have myself...
and if I have myself
I can never truly be alone.
Because no one can take myself from me
without my permission.

#362447 - 05/18/11 02:02 AM Re: Keeping myself [Re: hopeandtry]
Lost Spark Offline
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Registered: 12/04/04
Posts: 73
Loc: Chicago, IL

beautifully said.. The hardest part is tearing yourself away. I'm going through it as we speak. Still love him, but it's not enough. Never will be. And oh wait, shouldn't I be taking care of myself?! My T tells me this, weekly. I'm stubborn and trying to learn to love myself, first and foremost. If you can't love yourself, then, how can you possibly love others?

A great piece of advice was given to me this weekend by a wise girlfriend.. Her father is engaged to a wonderful woman who sadly, is dealing with Alcoholism. She has been on and off the wagon for years. He finally stepped up and said, you need help...

The words: "I want a Partner, Not a Patient."

She is in Rehab as we speak, 'healing' for her next Chapter in life, with him..

Completely floored me...

Stay strong love.

Lost Spark

"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy.’ They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life." - John Lennon

#362448 - 05/18/11 02:10 AM Re: Keeping myself [Re: Lost Spark]
hopeandtry Offline

Registered: 07/29/10
Posts: 476
Thank you, Lost Spark. I'm glad to see you are still around as I know you are going through a very hard time. We need to chat sometime.


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