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#358866 - 04/07/11 11:02 AM Help me to help him
Tinker Bell Offline

Registered: 04/06/11
Posts: 4
Hi everyone!

I'm deeply sad that I'm here. One of my best friends has very recently come out to me as a survivor and I want to educate myself so I can be of some help.
I'm looking forward to sharing experiences with other survivors, friends and family so I can understand and care better for my friend.
Please feel free to message me and/or to invite others to do so, I'm particularly interested in hearing from survivors who have been in recovery for some time. I'd be really grateful if you could let me know how your loved ones succeeded in helping you throughout your processes and what you missed or didn't get from them that you felt was important, so I can provide this for my dear friend.

I thank you very much in advance, what happened to all and each one of you was totally unfair I hope with all my might life pays you back with enough peace, love and happiness.

Best regards

Second star to the right and straight on till morning.
Peter Pan

#358922 - 04/07/11 10:49 PM Re: Help me to help him [Re: Tinker Bell]
hopeandtry Offline

Registered: 07/29/10
Posts: 476
Glad you are here. You will find a lot of support on MS. Feel free to PM me any time.

#359086 - 04/09/11 10:00 AM Re: Help me to help him [Re: hopeandtry]
poppy Offline

Registered: 07/19/10
Posts: 19
Me too

#359095 - 04/09/11 12:51 PM Re: Help me to help him [Re: poppy]
Rusty563 Offline

Registered: 02/26/11
Posts: 209
Loc: Anywhere, USA
Hiya Tink,

I'm in recovery and the best advice I can give to you is just be a friend ready to listen. That may be all he needs from you right now but the one thing I want you to be aware of is this - you're not his therapist. You're limited as to what needs you can meet. Just stand by his side, hold his hand, and let him know there's nothing to be ashamed of. It wasn't his fault.


Edited by Rusty563 (04/09/11 12:53 PM)
There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you - Maya Angelous
Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed - Martin Luther King

#359166 - 04/10/11 12:30 AM Re: Help me to help him [Re: Rusty563]
Tinker Bell Offline

Registered: 04/06/11
Posts: 4
Thank you very much for your replies.
Rusty, it's not that I ever attempted at being his therapist but I deeply undertand what you mean and really appreciate your advice.

Second star to the right and straight on till morning.
Peter Pan


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