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#35893 - 01/19/03 08:57 PM Amazing group of men
bwashington Offline
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Registered: 01/19/03
Posts: 2
Loc: washington
I've read many of the conversations that have taken place on this discussion board, and have been continually astounded by all of your strength, and perseverence. I apologize ahead of time if it upsets anyone that I am a young woman, but I write in tremendous concern for a man who I seek to understand, out of love. It has become real to me that I can never understand his pain, or any of yours. I wish for him so deeply, THIS type of support, but he is so far behind it seems in his healing process. I cannot get him to see a therapist, or at this point, even speak to me, but the fact remains that we have conceived a child. I really don't know what it is I should share, or even ask, except if he was you, what would you need from me? It is nothing short of amazing reading these stories, and thoughts, because he is one and the same with all of you, it;s like revelation after revelation. Because I can't begin to understand on my own. I'm printing out this retreat registration application for him, what are your thoughts regarding this? If anyone feels able to talk with me about this more in depth, I can't tell you how much I would appreciate it. He has been drowning for his entire life, he has made amazing turnarounds from drugs, and alcohol, and I believe in him. He doesn't trust anyone. His father was his perpatrator, his entire childhood, he died in a motorcycle accident. He was in a 4-man prayer group for 2 years, and never mentioned anything. He has been diagnosed with bipolar, now they're saying bipolar 2, but only I seem to know what he is really like, good and bad. And that seems to make him absolutely hate me. You men are amazing, you are compassionate, and very much alive, God bless all of you.


#35894 - 01/19/03 09:42 PM Re: Amazing group of men
RJD Offline

Registered: 02/18/01
Posts: 326
Loc: jefferson City, Mo,usa
You have a full plate BWASHINGTON being in a relationship with one of us, especially so shut down, with one of our diagnoses, and a child. I'm afraid there is not much any of us can do until he is ready. It's his choice. We can be here for when he decides he is ready. A therapist sensitive to these issues is crucial, again when he is ready. Some of us have opened up here first before being ready for a therapist. You are doing what you can. Be sure to be taking care of yourself first, and hold him accountable to what you need from him. It sounds like you're there for him. If you can convince him to go to one of the retreats, it would sound very hopeful, again if he is ready. If he is that closed up about his issues and he has opened up to you, that is amazing.
I could not have opened to my wife first.

#35895 - 01/19/03 09:44 PM Re: Amazing group of men
RJD Offline

Registered: 02/18/01
Posts: 326
Loc: jefferson City, Mo,usa
By the way you sound quite amazing yourself. I for one feel very appreciated.
And I also think this is an incredably amazing group of men.

#35896 - 01/19/03 11:12 PM Re: Amazing group of men
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
I have also opened a copy of this topic on Family & Friends, and If people feel more comfortable replying there then please feel free to do so.

I realise it's a bit confusing, but I am trying to balance the needs of everyone while upsetting noone.


bwashington, please check your Private Messages through 'My Profile' at top of page. Dave

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau


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