It is confusing....extremely! My husband never fully disclosed nor accepted what happened to him until he was in his 40's year (the abuse began as a small child and continued through his teen years). It will only come when he is ready. No way to pull or force it out of him.
I was aware of many things that had happened to him and tried to express to him that he was abused, but until he was ready to embrace it and accept it for himself, it wasn't happening; everyone travels at their own pace.
Once the acceptance starts, it becomes worse before it gets better and becomes one hell of a rollercoaster. Perhaps he's aware of that and just not ready for the tremendous pain and loss and work that will have to be done in order to begin the healing process, it's seriously a lifelong journey for anyone who has been abused and a lifelong journey of support for those of us who love them.
Good luck and be well!