Agree w/ our brothers Mountainous Buck, Writerkeith, 1227ms.
It took me three therapists to find the right one and she's made all the difference. The first one not only didn't help too much but actually increased my CSA flashbacks and same sex attraction, which is not good if you're married.
My current therapist not only allowed me to save my marriage but also my job and start healing from the CSA I spent decades trying to deny and suppress. She's allowed me to finally stop surviving and start living after decades of wandering in a desert.
Also, she's allowed me to start eliminating and correcting the destructive behaviors that resulted from both CSA and a really bad home environment growing up besided the abuse.
There was a post last year about the gender of our therapists and why we chose a man or woman. Can't find it right now but it was an interesting exchange of ideas, thoughts and outcomes.
It's really true about being completely honest, no matter how difficult it feels to open up about it. It will enable him/her to develop a more sound strategy for helping you heal from the abuse. Even after close to two years in therapy and complete trust in my therapist, I was still opening up about some of the things that happened to me due to shame, guilt and being too hard on myself for what happened.
In full disclosure, I am about to open up yet another event from my CSA past (the hits keep coming ;))today at therapy that I have not mentioned to her previously since I was finally able to tell my wife as well almost 11 years after it first happened.
You're going to learn all types of new concepts from EMDR to finding a safe place at the end of a session.
We hope all goes well for you.
Break a leg my brother and remember, we're here for you.
My CSA story TRIGGERS!!!!The hottest place in Hell is reserved for those who remain neutral in times of great moral conflict. Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.