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#349264 - 12/30/10 01:44 AM a mothers
Avery46 Offline

Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
I am watching the movie "dead man walking". I feel like the man who is on death row.

There is a scene in this movie where the mother of the nun who is counseling the man who is going to be executed says "a mothers arms are strong when her child is in danger".

The woman who raised me - who I refuse from this moment forward to call mom - professed to be a mom but she invited those men including her own brother to molest me as a little boy. She did NOT protect me or love me she is NO mother.

She told me she gave me life and could take it away - she did just that.

At peace,

Edited by Avery46 (12/30/10 02:55 AM)
aka DJsport

#349280 - 12/30/10 05:51 AM Re: a mothers [Re: Avery46]
TJ jeff Offline

Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3594
Loc: Northern Wisconsin
She told me she gave me life and could take it away
my own mother used that same line with me many times - no good mother would ever say that to their child...

Who will cry for the little boy? - I will... - Antwone Fisher

Abuse happens in silence/isolation - Recovery happens only when that silence/isolation is broken...

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#349282 - 12/30/10 05:57 AM Re: a mothers [Re: Avery46]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA

God loves you. He wanted you to be here. Your mother was only a vehicle (albeit an important one).

You have a lot to offer.


#349292 - 12/30/10 10:38 AM Re: a mothers [Re: pufferfish]
mogigo Offline

Registered: 04/25/07
Posts: 1331
Loc: Colorado
Mothers are not infallable..not even close.

But I would have argued for a long time about how infallable they are.

Glad she's gone smile



#349294 - 12/30/10 10:58 AM Re: a mothers [Re: pufferfish]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my brothers,

Greetings from Germany.

We, "precious gifts from God" to our parent(s) were sent to he wrong address. But HE surely knew what would happen to us.

The very person whom gave birth to "us precious gifts" from God.

Were the very person(s) who would destroy us. We would be paying for the rest of our lives for the lack of emotional, physical, mental attention that a new born should have been given. Any wonder why i from the age of 8 i always wished that she was dead. i told her that just about every time that she beat the hell out of me and threw those knives at me.

I, often cried out in terror, just what have i done to deserve this? No wonder that i/we never had any self esteem we were useless, worthless.

We "precious gifts" from God, sure have a heck of a time in believeing in God. Where was HE then? Any wonder why?

So, as we try and to come to terms with our inner child whom are now grown men in dealing with this, we are faced once again all that terror & fear from so long ago. Trying to put it into proper perspective.

We did nothing wrong. We were loveable babys/young boys/adolecents.

My brothers here, i wish you all a healing & healthy New Year.

"I will take that lost boys hand, and i will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity." As he is me.


Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

#349305 - 12/30/10 02:57 PM Re: a mothers [Re: Avery46]
Avery46 Offline

Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
Originally Posted By: Avery46
"a mothers arms are strong when her child is in danger".

Was never held. Was in danger. NO strength left.

Forever forgotten

Edited by Avery46 (12/30/10 05:26 PM)
aka DJsport

#349520 - 01/01/11 10:09 PM Re: a mothers [Re: Avery46]
Sad in the Midwe Offline

Registered: 12/24/09
Posts: 21
I'm so sorry. I hope there are people in your life now who can give you loving support-it won't make up for what you didn't get, but it is helpful...
Sad in the Midwest


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