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#3490 - 08/04/04 04:51 AM Re: About time......
yesac76 Offline

Registered: 03/23/04
Posts: 508
Loc: Idaho
Okay, being nosey. What were your bad points? I know I have quite a few.

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#3491 - 08/04/04 05:22 AM Re: About time......
MrDon Offline

Registered: 01/08/01
Posts: 957
Loc: Deltona, FL
I am grinning because something similar happened to me a few years ago with a very good therapist I had.

She wanted me to find ways to bond with other men (adults) in a supportive enviroment. Keep in mind I was going to a baptist counseling center and pretty much didn't want God to be any part of life's equation for me (got to know my story to understand the reasoning on that).

Anyway she kept after me to consider going to a men's retreat with the baptist churches. I was like, sure I will think about it (had to try and be respectful of her feelings I thought because that is how my life had always been - feelings of others over myself). So after months of bugging me, I really wanted to tel her to FK off but couldn't bring myself to do that.

Ok, what did I do. I signed up to go to the Voices conference with a lot of people I didn't know and I knew very little about. I figured, I would show her! And I did, but I also showed myself which is what sounds like happened with you.

I don't know if this type of pushing is always good but my therapist knew how to bring things out in me and in the long run, I think she picked the best method.

Your story reminded me of that and brought a chuckle to my heart. It also had me thinking, that's the way... you're doing it man!


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#3492 - 08/04/04 02:36 PM Re: About time......
Aden Offline

Registered: 07/05/04
Posts: 499
That great! I run thru the list of bad things every day even sometime when I donít realize that I am doing it. Tonight while I am at work alone I think Iíll try to run the positive list. Thanks!


#3493 - 08/04/04 08:11 PM Re: About time......
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here

it sounds like an exercise very worth doing, by everyone here. I know that it is one that I will be trying.

I hope you can keep that list, keep it with you. And when you are feeling bad or low on yourself, or 'weak' or some such thing, read it. See in 'black and white' that you are indeed a man of great character and quality. You are a GOOD man Marc.


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#3494 - 08/04/04 10:02 PM Re: About time......
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts
Well, Hell, man, what've we been telling you?


Today, I feel a bit negative, so could you do mine?

(Waitaminnit, just rethought that. Nevermind! :p )

Seriously, it's a good revelation, no?

Peace and love,


There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#3496 - 08/04/04 10:48 PM Re: About time......
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
I HATE it when a good tantrum goes to waste like that [Razz] .
But was it worth it?

Dave ;\)

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#3497 - 08/05/04 12:59 AM Re: About time......
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
See. Instead of a tantrum you gained some very good insight. But it is ok to have a tantrum. Sometimes it is good for the soul.

There!!!!!!! \:D




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