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#348487 - 12/18/10 11:23 PM Accept Loss Of My Family????
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Registered: 02/16/07
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Loc: FEMA Region 1
I see these TV shows of real-life dangers, hazzards and disasters wherein the husband or wife fight like hell to stay alive to "see their family again" because they can't imagine going on without them or they without him/her. In other words family is everything to them. Being with and seeing their children and being a part of their lives is everything to them. "They don't think they would be able to go-on without them." They fight for survival to be with their family.

So why in God's name is everyone trying to convince me that losing my family over my CSA-caused PTSD is "ok?" My weak as liquid-shit wife "didn't sign-up for this shit," but I'm supposed to be fine with it. This world is so fkg far from my understanding.

I've put this in Off Topic to reduce the chances of this post vaporizing.

#348496 - 12/19/10 09:11 AM Re: Accept Loss Of My Family???? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 10/22/10
Posts: 43
Loc: Maryland
The loss of your family is a very painfull loss that you will have to greive through and process on your own terms.I don't know that it is ok to lose like you have but at some point it does not have to be a showstopper.Is your CSa caused Ptsd your fault? Have you done the best you could?your wife was not prepared to deal with the issues that came before her nor were you prepared for Csa nor was I. We can learn to live with the issues now and part of that involves being ok with the devastating effects of trauma and its aftermath.I don't think you are fair to yourself if you blame you for the loss of your family since the CSA that you went through sent you into a tailspin that continues to this day. Learning to live with the aftermath is yours and falls on you to do your best part of you doing your best today involes giving yourself credit for doing your best up untill now and doing so enables your best to improve.


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