You aren't used up. There will be many women who will give you a chance, IF you will give them a chance.
You've worked very hard on your recovery. Now you have to work hard to understand how to deal with your interest in women.
One reason I've never married, is because I NEVER understood men. After a fiasco in 2001 and 2002, I started trying to figure out my mistakes. In 2006, I found a very good book that explained the stages of dating, written by John Gray, called "Mars and Venus on a Date." It really helped me. Maybe it will help you to take step one, then step two, then step three and so on in the right order. He discusses when you bring things up and so forth.
You aren't used up. But like me, you are trying to figure out how to go about it. It wasn't natural to me, that's for sure! I wish my parents had explained this stuff.
Be well, Donnie.
Edited by Disappointed (12/14/10 07:31 PM)