I've come to really believe and accept in the last week, that shame is something that is imposed upon us survivors via the negative messages from our abusers. We learn to take these things on because of their actions, behaviours and the things they overtly tell us. It impacts our sense of self and we carry this into adulthood and generalise it outward to encompass many aspects of our adult lives.
The way to heal from this shame, I am finding, is to hand it back to our abusers. They own the shame not us.
Blaidd (pronounced as blaith/blithe) is a welsh word meaning wolf.