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#345519 - 11/17/10 11:56 AM Re: Erections and lack thereof [Re: Mountainous Buck]
learning2remember Offline

Registered: 10/21/03
Posts: 403
Loc: Europe
MY problem now is that when my wife touches me I feel like she is using me. I can't let myself enjoy the touch because I feel like she is not touching me to show kindness but only to get pleasure for herself. This must not be true, but it feels like that at the moment and I practically want to back away. It makes having sex difficult for me, which wasn't always the case.

How do you get out of that?

"This is not my shame, this is their shame." Mona Eltahawy

#345569 - 11/17/10 09:45 PM Re: Erections and lack thereof [Re: learning2remember]
Shaun The Sheep Offline

Registered: 03/17/10
Posts: 188
Loc: West Coast

Edited by Shaun The Sheep (04/01/11 03:19 PM)

#346182 - 11/24/10 10:58 PM Re: Erections and lack thereof [Re: learning2remember]
jea36 Offline

Registered: 11/24/10
Posts: 6
Anyone take Viagra?

I am only 36 but I take it when my wife wants me to perform for sure as a safety net. (I also suffer from loss of erection when the thoughts "get to me").

When I take it sometimes feel like my member is made of Styrofoam - like not part of me... I know weird. I can't decide if it is good or bad because I am happy I can make it through an encounter but disappointed because I can't tell if it is "real".

Emotionally I feel more absent than there, but my wife thinks I am a rockstar.


Edited by jea36 (11/24/10 10:59 PM)

#346210 - 11/25/10 04:53 AM Re: Erections and lack thereof [Re: jea36]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my brothers,

I have had the same problems in the last 25 years. May i suggest that you go to a competent urologist. Let him check out the plumbing. I have been to two urologists at the Air Force hospital in Germany, at different times, they both told me that the plumbing is OK. So it must be psychological. Something in your head.
Well at that time in my life i sure didn't know about my secrets that were buried in my mind. The CSA in it's self can be a cause of it. But nobody asked me if i was sexually abused as a young boy.

One of them prescribed Viagra, but was not sure if the various Air Force pharmacies would be ordering them. (It was something new then) and there was a question if the military ought to be offering that medication. Also various medications that you take maybe causing it too.

But, home i go and i told the old lady (my wife), that i want to try it out. So itake it wait for the time that it takes for the stuff to work. Then she tells me that there is no way that we are going to have sex. Because she didn't want me to have a heart attack while i was on top of her. There never was anything wrong with my heart. But any way that ended our sex life. Forever.

Heal well my brothers, heal well.

"I will take that lost boys hand, and i will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity."
As he is me.


Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

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