It is not your fault in any way that this guy abused you. The reaction of keeping silent is normal. Its very complicated It took you 30 years to find us I suspect thats how long it took you to be able to deal.
Anyway just as you are not responsible for your abuse you are not responsible for anyone elses. Yes if you told you may have prevented someone else from being abused. But that is not a certainty, and your not being responsible for anothers behavior, an adult compared to your child, is certain.
Don't beat yourslef up. And maybe it is that the dream is telling you its time to report him now. Talk to your T about how to do it so that you don't aggrivate your own problems. ANd remember he is the only one responsible for what he did to anyone.
Edited by kidneythis (11/22/10 10:48 AM)
As Mark Twain once quipped, history may not repeat itself, but it does rhyme.