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#344085 - 11/04/10 12:20 PM Caution Gentlemen
sono Offline

Registered: 07/19/09
Posts: 1069

Since our world here is about to become public in a potentially big way, I wish to remind everyone who posts on this side that everything you put here is public, search-able via google (try putting in your name if you use it and male'll see what I mean)

There is nothing new about this, but the fact that many more people than usual will become aware of it is VERY new.

I was prompted to write this post as I was speaking with another male survivor last night who had taken part in the Oprah show. He had done some interviews with local media outlets and commented that one reporter had known something which was no in his press release. I reminded him that all of his MS public posts were, well "PUBLIC" and that perhaps the reporter had simply gone looking and found some piece of information which connected his screen name with him. He had not considered that or remembered that possibility.

On the member's side I asked the management team to use caution when admitting new members to the member's only side. On the public side, I remind everyone that everything is public. This is perhaps not only of concern to those who were on Oprah, but the rest of us as well who have perhaps spoken of an on-line community to friends etc. Remember...this is a public site and there might be a different public watching and reading us than in the past.

all the best,


the family
the perp

#344118 - 11/04/10 06:47 PM Re: Caution Gentlemen [Re: sono]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Loc: Waldport, Oregon
Your thoughts are quite aprapos, sono. Thanks

"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#344124 - 11/04/10 07:33 PM Re: Caution Gentlemen [Re: sono]
EvanCan Offline

Registered: 09/09/10
Posts: 170
You are a wise man, sono.
Thank you for your caution and advice.

Hope Springs 2010 WoR Alumnus
"I'm here, and I'm on the mend."

#344236 - 11/05/10 09:47 PM Re: Caution Gentlemen [Re: EvanCan]
derrick Offline

Registered: 05/30/10
Posts: 94
Loc: North Carolina
Safety First
While this is not a 12 step program - some of the same principles apply

My Story

Alumnai of May 2011 DAHLONEGA (a life changeing event)
Alumnai of October 2010 WOR Hope Springs

#344455 - 11/08/10 06:24 AM Re: Caution Gentlemen [Re: derrick]
mogigo Offline

Registered: 04/25/07
Posts: 1331
Loc: Colorado
Hmm, while I agree completely with everything said here.

I have nothing to hide from anything I have said here or anything that may be gleamed about my past.

It's what's important to our lives 'right now' that should guide our hand, and being me, with no shame or regard for what others might take from my past or my posts, is what set me free.

Stay strong


#344516 - 11/09/10 12:59 AM Re: Caution Gentlemen [Re: mogigo]
ComicBookGuy Offline

Registered: 02/08/09
Posts: 443
Loc: London, England
Thanks sono, good idea, I'd already checked my posts and only made edits to the handful that dealt unresolved situations, once something is finished and over with, I'm cool with the public reading it, until then, no point having anything misconstrued or misquoted.



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