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#341665 - 10/07/10 05:13 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: pufferfish]
Obi Offline

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1634
Loc: kansas
don't think so allen... this is it for oprah.. last season.... which doesn't matter to me anyway.. i hardly ever watched her show...

yes, i would've liked to have been picked to at least sit in the audience...


i hope that the people that do go get the message out...

sorry... i'm in a very very dark place right now.

live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

#341670 - 10/07/10 05:57 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: Obi]
MrDon Offline

Registered: 01/08/01
Posts: 957
Loc: Deltona, FL

Whatever needs to happen, will happen. I'm confidant of that.


Edited by MrDon (10/18/10 09:16 PM)
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#341692 - 10/08/10 02:28 AM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: Curtis St. John]
Steve Augustine Offline

Registered: 10/06/10
Posts: 7
Loc: Florida, U.S.A.
I'm not sure if there going to be focusing on a select few for the whole episode. I had read online that the one of the original ideas (not that this will be it) was to have it as a large open type forum with everyones participation.

When I was interviewed on the phone the last thing I was asked was if I'd be willing to share my story on the show? I said yes. I guess it maybe depends on how many people are actually going. There supposed to let us know as the date gets closer. I'm trying not to be so anxious.

"The only time you run out of chances is when you stop taking them."

#341711 - 10/08/10 10:34 AM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: Steve Augustine]
Curtis St. John Offline
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Registered: 01/20/04
Posts: 1798
Loc: Westchester, N.Y.
When I was interviewed on the phone the last thing I was asked was if I'd be willing to share my story on the show?

That's exactly as it went for me. I'm fine either way if they use my story or not; I just want to be mentally prepared for one or the other and was curious if others were told their story was actually scheduled because that would give me a clue.

As Obi has pointed out, this sort of thing does hold the potential to be disappointing and can stir up feelings of victimization (I’m so, so sorry Obi.. I know exactly how this feels first hand). We have to remember that first and foremost, Oprah is a business out to make money and you have to be prepared that although they care about us, our emotions are not their top priority…

I was called to be on the Montel Show once. They drove me to the city to film some video clips the day before the taping, and like Oprah’s folks, they said up front that they weren’t sure they would actually use my story and that I’d most likely be in the audience.

Well while I’m standing on the train platform waiting to head into the city, I got a call that they’d not only use my story but that I’d now be on stage. When I got to the studio, other guests were taken upstairs however I was just sitting in the lobby. Eventually they brought me upstairs after I inquired and they put some makeup on me and had me wait.

I sat in the audience and the producer came to me and said they would be using my story but I won’t be on stage… in the end they didn’t use my story at all and they ushered the audience out onto 5th Ave with a hat and a t-shirt as a parting gift… and me in full makeup… I was able to make my way around to the front of the building and talk my way back inside so I could wash the makeup off. That one was tough to handle.

I’m very sure that won’t happen here but the point is you have to be ready for anything and nothing is a done deal till it actually airs. And they may tape things that feature some of us and then not use it. I had a segment in Boyhood Shadows about female offenders which I thought was very powerful. It was on the DVD they sent but when I flew to the premiere in California I found myself sitting in the audience wondering where that particular segment went…

My point is not to bring anyone down, I would just rather we prepare for the minimum but still hope for the best experience we can have. And in the end, what this is about , is getting the word out that we are here… we exist, we are real… the pain is real… and we will be heard as a group if not each of us individually.


#341718 - 10/08/10 11:06 AM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: Curtis St. John]
tartugas Offline

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Registered: 02/11/07
Posts: 513
Loc: NYC
I am flying out as well for the taping, and I know about as much as everyone else does. We fly out the 19th, tape the morning of the 20th, and fly home after. They also sent out an email asking for photos of participants from around the time of our abuse. I am choosing not to send one because I do not want the focus to be the sad child I was, but the proud survivor I am today.

We should make plans for dinner the evening of the 19th. Is there anyone here who is more familiar with Chicago than I am who can make some restaurant recommendations?


"I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
Healing D.H. Lawrence

#341734 - 10/08/10 03:55 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: tartugas]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA
Since there is so much mystery about all this, we'll have to call it Phantom of the Oprah smile laugh

#341735 - 10/08/10 04:09 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: tartugas]
LandOfShadow Offline

Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 684
Loc: Minneapolis, Minnesota USA
Obi, if you feel that strongly, call them up! It's clear they have been swamped talking to some 200 guys at length. There's probably still time. Very likely they lost, misplaced or got confused with your information.

Restaurants: A chicago friend recommends Xoco,


Et par le pouvoir d’un mot Je recommence ma vie, Je suis né pour te connaître, Pour te nommer

And by the power of a single word I can begin my life again, I was born to know you, to name you

Paul Eluard

#341829 - 10/10/10 01:49 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: LandOfShadow]
Donald D'Haene Offline

Registered: 04/11/04
Posts: 68
Loc: London
I too am going...hi from Canada...looking forward to meeting you all who are going in Chicago...this is going to be something else. I haven't been on here for know how life goes...4 jobs, buying a house, blah blah blah....I am working on a one-man play based on my story with a playwright who was nominated for a Governor General Award. Hope we can do dinner in Chicago!

#341833 - 10/10/10 05:06 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: Donald D'Haene]
Regs Offline

Registered: 12/03/08
Posts: 153
Loc: Oklahoma
Hi Guys,

I will be there too and I look forward to meeting many of you face to face.

No matter how this ends up, it should be a good opportunity to offer hope and courage to the many that have not started their recovery journey. It was from men like you that I borrowed courage in order to take the first shaky steps. It is wonderful to be in a position to give back.

WoR Sequoia Alumni, April 2010

#341835 - 10/10/10 05:23 PM Re: OPRAH SHOW [Re: Regs]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA
This will be exciting.

Someone said they didn't want to bring a childhood pix. Please rethink. It would really add to your statement.


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