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#341268 - 10/01/10 02:53 PM Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

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Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
They have released a 10 min clip from Kathy Barbari (Big Voice Pictures).

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#341280 - 10/01/10 06:02 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
StartingOver08 Offline

Registered: 05/07/08
Posts: 21
Loc: Baltimore
Thank you for sharing this clip. Its alittle bit that means alot in the message. Thank you.

#341285 - 10/01/10 08:22 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: StartingOver08]
Avery46 Offline

Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
This clip is so right on the money/emotions. I cried!!!!

I have a passion to do what one the survivor is doing.


aka DJsport

#341290 - 10/01/10 09:17 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Avery46]
nltsaved Offline

Registered: 08/26/08
Posts: 917
Loc: Kc,Mo
had to delete

Edited by nltsaved (10/03/10 11:08 PM)
Video of me telling my story
you are not alone never were
Why i hate Religion but love Jesus

#341351 - 10/03/10 05:19 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: nltsaved]
blaidd Offline

Registered: 12/01/00
Posts: 240
Loc: Australia
That looks like an incredibly powerful documentary. That 10 min clip was hard to watch, but so validating. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it.

p.s. I cried too Avery.

Blaidd (pronounced as blaith/blithe) is a welsh word meaning wolf.

#341689 - 10/08/10 12:08 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: blaidd]
1islandboy Offline

Registered: 06/23/08
Posts: 878
Loc: washington
Thank you for sharing this clip...ditto on the validating.

It's a Long Way There (Little River Band)


Rise above the storm and you will find the sunshine ~ M.F. Fernandez

#342498 - 10/19/10 01:02 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: 1islandboy]
bigvoicepictures Offline

Registered: 09/10/09
Posts: 15
Thank you for all your responses to Boys and Men Healing. We did this film
because I'm a mother with a young boy, and also a filmmaker. I felt the calling to bring this issue to light, and help men sexually abused as boys to have a voice. We just found out Tony, one of the men in our film, will be on the panel of the Oprah Show which airs November 5th. I believe that this decade is the time for much needed change, and time for justice.

With all the outreach we are doing to use the film to make change, I am inspired by so many men I have met who are the most amazing individuals who are so brave and so real. I have also been inspired by how men are helping one another to heal, who bring much hope and strength to one another.

Thank you all!

Edited by bigvoicepictures (10/21/10 12:59 AM)

#342549 - 10/20/10 12:34 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: bigvoicepictures]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my brothers.

Ken, thanks for sharing this with me.

I can see myself in hem.

Pretty powerful indeed.

"I will take my lost boys hand and i will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity." As He is Me.

Heal well, my brothers, heal well.


Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

#342812 - 10/22/10 08:44 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: petercorbett]
DanM Offline

Registered: 11/09/07
Posts: 540
Loc: So. California
In spite of all the progress that I have made over these past three years, I still had a difficult time watching the clip. It appears that Kathy Barbari did a wonderful job presenting the material in a caring and compasionate manner. Hearing and seeing the pain that others have experienced is very moving and powerful. It is so easy to sometimes place your own pain out- of- sight and out-of- mind, that is, until you witness the pain of others. Then, it all comes rushing back again.


Edited by DanM (10/22/10 08:55 PM)
Edit Reason: spelling

#346400 - 11/28/10 01:24 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
Nas Offline

Registered: 11/22/10
Posts: 18
Loc: NJ
Thank you for the clip it was very powerful and meaningful for me

#346478 - 11/28/10 11:47 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Nas]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA
This is a good and helpful film clip.


#347722 - 12/10/10 08:58 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Nas]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1

#350119 - 01/08/11 11:52 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Still]
brokenleg Offline

Registered: 01/05/10
Posts: 65
A relief. I love it. Thanks.

#360049 - 04/17/11 11:41 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: brokenleg]
Fissy Tsickens Offline

Registered: 09/23/08
Posts: 466
Loc: Bassett, Virginia
Thanks, Ken.

Wish that I could cry
Fall upon my knees
Find a way to lie
About a home Ill never see

It may sound absurd...but dont be naive
Even heroes have the right to bleed
I may be disturbed...but wont you concede
Even heroes have the right to dream
Its not easy to be me

#361366 - 05/03/11 03:52 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Nas]
Navi7 Offline

Registered: 05/02/11
Posts: 4
Loc: South Africa
This was validating, though I cried to, well...still on the inside. I'm managing tears now though. I have got a long way to go. I hate the way I feel. But I know God is with me.

Thanks for making it available.


How does God speak, because I am listening. Someone help me!

#373593 - 10/28/11 08:24 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Navi7]
unhappycamper Offline

Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 732
Loc: VA
== triggers ===

I just received my copy of the DVD yesterday & watched the entire documentary last night. It's very well made and edifying. A big surprise is that two of the survivors had experiences similar to mine (violent rape) and the North Carolina psychologist even remembered a pillow in his face, same as me. We all know there are thousands of silent survivors out there with stories like ours, but there's a sense in which it's good to actually hear that the abuse was "nothing personal," it was about the perpetrators, not about us. And I enjoyed the upbeat attitude and constructive activism of the New Jersey survivor.

#373667 - 10/28/11 11:01 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Nas]
NewSummer Offline

Registered: 09/01/11
Posts: 59
Loc: Surrey BC
"The blame belongs there, not here"...
I shut others out when I feel they are getting to close..sounds like it is a normal responce..
I will watch this again..

life is what happens while you make other plans- John Lennon

#374148 - 11/03/11 10:33 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Nas]
ShadowPianoman Offline

Registered: 10/20/11
Posts: 54
Loc: Iowa
That meant so much to me, you sharing that clip with all of us.

Thank you.


#381341 - 01/03/12 10:55 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
quinceduncan Offline

Registered: 12/30/11
Posts: 6
Loc: South Carolina
Check your local public libraries for copies of the dvd. I checked it out and it was how I was able to find this website through references at the end and on the cover. The video helps to awaken a sense of awareness for many of us that are walking around dealing with the same issues, but don't get to verbalize nor visualize it. I am proud of the 3 depicted survivors and the filmmakers that helped to realize the documentary. There really could be several volumes of this dvd . . . just reading the survivor stories so far on this website . . . . there's a lot of work to be done.

Always looking up!

#390172 - 03/22/12 02:58 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
Forexpreneur Offline

Registered: 02/08/12
Posts: 141
Loc: Uranus (hell no not yours. lol...
Thank you very much for sharing this clip. This looks like an incredibly powerful film.


#435423 - 05/22/13 01:52 AM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6300
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
very hard to witness. too real. too close.
these men sure have a lot of guts to take it to this level.
i can hardly bear to watch this clip.
don't think i could watch the entire documentary.
i am sure it will help some survivors.


#442383 - 07/27/13 09:05 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
BuffaloCO Offline

Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 490
�We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.� - Plato

#442399 - 07/27/13 10:25 PM Re: Boys and Men Healing 10 min clip [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
newground Offline

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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 1097
Loc: michigan
im with you victor
I did go to a viewing and I could not sit through it my wife got to go and she was glad to have gone she said it helped her to understand better. I was totally panicked watching it an left about halfway through.
Either I will find a way, or I will make one.
Philip Sidney

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