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#340932 - 09/27/10 11:19 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: Mountainous Buck]
JustSurviving Offline


Registered: 04/22/10
Posts: 47
Loc: Hell
Originally Posted By: Mountainous Buck
...-but tell me how did you feel in standing up for yourself? In speaking your truth?
I don't feel much other than anger anymore or a blank emotion that tends to engulf all times that I'm not angry... maybe like an empty nothingness. So, how did I feel standing up for myself and speaking my truth? Well, I wasn't angry, so... nothing.


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#340936 - 09/27/10 12:17 PM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: JustSurviving]
Avery46 Offline


Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
I experienced therapists who 1. fell asleep, 2. said I cant help you with the sexual abuse issues but I can help with this, and 3. said I was NOT making it up.

I continued my quest to get help for myself.

I am glad your talking about it.

A

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#341613 - 10/07/10 08:30 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: Avery46]
JustSurviving Offline


Registered: 04/22/10
Posts: 47
Loc: Hell
I received a call from the "therapist" late last night at my home asking me why I would call the licensing board about our "interaction." He said he "was just trying to help you out."

I told him to either be adequately trained or quit his "profession" and ended the call after informing him to never attempt any contact with me again.


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#341615 - 10/07/10 08:36 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: JustSurviving]
Mountainous Buck Offline
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Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1627
Loc: Minnesota
Way to go!

What a psycho T brother-i hope this inappropriatemphone call gets reported and confirms to your gut the truth about this guy-

Listento that voice inside-I hear you getting strongermand havimore clarity about you life-and yourself.

Keep climbing man!

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We have to take responsibility for what we're not responsible for.

�It doesn't matter where you've come from,
It matters where you go" Frank Turner

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#345066 - 11/13/10 09:50 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: Mountainous Buck]
JustSurviving Offline


Registered: 04/22/10
Posts: 47
Loc: Hell
Guess who just got carted off to jail last night and guess why...







Therapist shows up at my front door step at 9pm and starts banging on the door and ringing the bell, yelling for me to answer. My wife asked him to go away, without opening the door. He refused. He started kicking the door. She called the police and asked for their assistance. I arrived home a few minutes after she called the cops and was grabbed in a bear hug by a strange person while going down the walk towards my front door. That person proceeded to hit the ground after a head butt to the face and few punches to the face/head. Then I saw it was the therapist. Cops arrived as he was getting to his feet a few minutes later. He began yelling obscenities at me then ran towards me swinging his arms. He was then tased by one of the two responding officers and hit the ground again.

I was ordered to the ground, ziptied and placed in the back of a squad car.

My wife explained that the guy on the ground was the person she had called about and that the guy sitting in the back of the squad car was little old me who had just gotten home and "jumped" by the crazy man.

He got carted off for several "violations", one of which was public intoxication...


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#345069 - 11/13/10 10:08 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: JustSurviving]
Mountainous Buck Offline
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Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1627
Loc: Minnesota
That is one for the record books-I hope you and your wife are ok-how traumatic for you both - stand tall today, ok?

I guess Ts are human and subject to the same outbursts over pent up unprocessed issue.

Choose carefully-check your gut when interviewing potential Ts.

A friend recently commented that only someone who has worked thru their own issues can help others do the same-regardless of their credentials.

I hope you find a great T after all this-you were right to nail this guy.

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�It doesn't matter where you've come from,
It matters where you go" Frank Turner

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#345072 - 11/13/10 10:26 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: JustSurviving]
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Registered: 01/02/10
Posts: 732
Loc: United States
I'm sorry that this happened to you and your wife, but now let's talk about the silver lining.

You are now in a the strongest possible position to follow up on your original complaint. You have a phone call from the therapist which is documented, and the police report (you did get the incident number I hope) showing wholly inappropriate contact. These together (his reaction) provide substantiation for your claim. A blameless and ethical therapist would not have reacted in this way. I would recommend exploring a restraining order limiting contact and proximity with you, your wife, your family and home.

While I'm gratified that this provides you proof and validation of your experience and the official complaint, I can't feel any joy at the pain and acting-out of this therapist. It's too simple to think he's just some asshole who deserves what he gets. Isn't that the same thing that others say about us? There is always more to the story.

There is something much bigger going on that is affecting this person's life and this extreme episode will hopefully get him the help he needs and prevent him from practicing until he can deal with his problems.

JustSurviving, their are caring, competent and gifted therapists out there. Please persevere.

-efm

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Everybody's been through their own hell
There's nothing too special about getting hurt
Getting over it, that takes the work

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#345083 - 11/13/10 01:21 PM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: Ever-fixed Mark]
kidneythis Offline


Registered: 11/08/09
Posts: 1558
Holy Crap Batman!
I just read the thread to catch up hoping you'd found someone and I got this story. Man o man that must really suck to be validated in that way,
It may seem petty but at least you got to hit him a couple times.
Definetly followup with the board and everything EFM suggested if you can. I'm glad he didn't harm your wife and family.

Holy effin crap Batman!


Oh yea sounds like you may have a good board there the way you describe the phone call telling you what result they came to. Followup if only for your family's sake.

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#345111 - 11/13/10 05:47 PM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: kidneythis]
Avery46 Offline


Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
Justsurviving,

I am glad your here to talk this through. I am inspired by your strength and courage.

Keep talking,

Donnie

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#345361 - 11/16/10 03:16 AM Re: I finished my counselling - YEAH! [Re: Mountainous Buck]
JustSurviving Offline


Registered: 04/22/10
Posts: 47
Loc: Hell
Originally Posted By: Mountainous Buck
I hope you and your wife are ok-how traumatic for you both...

I guess Ts are human and subject to the same outbursts over pent up unprocessed issue....

Choose carefully-check your gut when interviewing potential Ts....

I hope you find a great T after all this-you were right to nail this guy.
We're fine. She's tough and had a Benelli M4 in her hands until the police arrived and I've been jumped several times in my life. No worries on either account.

Everyone is human but we all need to learn to control ourselves.

I will not be interviewing any potential Ts. I am completely done with them. Completely.


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