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#33607 - 04/14/04 05:47 AM Re: what would you say....
yesac76 Offline

Registered: 03/23/04
Posts: 508
Loc: Idaho
I would ask him why he thinks homosexuals are evil, when he is a pedaphile, and that is about the most vile thing on Earth. I would ask him why he had to hurt me so bad. I would ask him how he could sleep at night. I would ask him why he chose me. Then I would punch him in the nose as hard as I can!

"You live it or lie it" Metallica

#33608 - 04/14/04 12:21 PM Re: what would you say....
phoster Offline

Registered: 11/21/03
Posts: 758
Loc: ohio
i dont want to see him. i dont want to ask him. i dont want to know him. it's beyond all of that now. there is nothing he could say to excuse or change what happened, so why bother? i guess i've let that go along time ago.

compassion is a light even to the darkest soul

#33609 - 04/14/04 06:12 PM Re: what would you say....
Archnut Offline

Registered: 10/26/02
Posts: 343
Loc: United Kingdom
Had to think hard about this.

I would like to ask my original abuser Chris Denning "why did you tell me that I was very possibly gay?" (otherwise I wouldnt be doing the things I had). That one thing screwed me up for years and occasionally I have to relive it whilst asleep.

As for the rest of them "I would tell them that they are not gay they are paedophiles" because they all give the apperance that they are gay and have no interest in early teens or in Denning case boys as young as ten. They are all liars as well. Denning is currently at large in Slovakia. This article is from 1999.,3604,297548,00.html

He is possiblby Britains most predatory paedophile and his survivors must now run into thousands now (I've seen him at work).

BTW I'm not a homophobe I endulged too much in Homosexual affairs as a "Rent Boy" for that, especially when I was homeless and short of a drink or two.

Stay safe

"And all that was left was hope"

#33610 - 04/14/04 10:29 PM Re: what would you say....
RICK57 Offline

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Irish - as some of the brothers here know, not that long back I did bump into mine after 34 years!

It was in a local shop & caught me completely unaware! I was looking at a can of cleaning foam (not long after I'd started therapy, was feeling good)when someone next to me actually said 'alright mate'....yes the bloody perv!

All I could do was cold stare /evil eye him blank....couldn't answer if I wanted too. Afterwards, I wished that I had asked him very loudly if he was still a kiddy fiddler... I didn't & it was too late!

He left the shop pretty quickly & he also lost any remaining power he had over me at that point...I hadn't / couldn't say a word.

Now the power is within myself - I cannot erase the memories ever....I know he is weak now!

Best wishes ...Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

#33611 - 04/15/04 10:36 AM Re: what would you say....
Archnut Offline

Registered: 10/26/02
Posts: 343
Loc: United Kingdom
Me again!

I also have times when I think I would like to show them (my perps) the damage a baseball bat could inflict!

"And all that was left was hope"

#33612 - 04/15/04 05:47 PM Re: what would you say....
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Archnut: Or a two headed woodsmans axe.



#33613 - 04/15/04 07:35 PM Re: what would you say....
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2261
Loc: Maryland USA
I would say, "How do you sleep at night?"

And then I'd add, "I told the police what you did. How do you think you'll sleep now?"

Go raibh maith agatsa as an ceist seo.


"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#33614 - 04/15/04 08:13 PM Re: what would you say....
swartzhund Offline

Registered: 04/08/04
Posts: 61
Loc: Michigan
Still have to see my perp, he's at family functions like holidays and stuff. I never told a soul who knows him. 17 years after being abused I still have a hard time breathing or acting normal. He knows not to talk to me. Sometimes I hope like hell he'll do something stupid so I can just unleash some instant justice.


#33615 - 04/16/04 06:09 PM Re: what would you say....
Ken Followell Offline
Past President

Registered: 12/30/01
Posts: 992
Loc: Bradenton, FL
I hope I could tell him that I survived. He was wrong, people know what it did to me and still love me. I would ask how he could rape a 2 year old and not kill himself. I would ask how hell is and if the "pleasure" he recieved from raping children is worth the eternity of damnation.

I think I would however be speechless.

Pehaps, I don't need waste my time speaking to those who hurt me. I am learning to leave people who cause me pain and not allow them any power over me. It is hard, but I know a enjoy more speaking to those who love me.

The only question I really want an answer to is why. And I know there is no answer.


Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

#33616 - 04/17/04 06:23 AM Re: what would you say....
aceofdiamonds Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 04/10/04
Posts: 12
I'd like to write a tell all book about the sick sh*t that woman did to me and have it be a best seller. Of course she'd be too f*cking stupid to realize it's about her. haha

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