Agreed about what you said. I'm just so accustomed to assuming a caretaking role (I think in part due to being the oldest) that it is really easy for me to slip into assuming other's problems as my own. Being an abuse survivor may have something to do with this to. We seem to go to extremes, as in we either need to be taken care of or do the caretaking with not much middle ground. Anyways in this experience I am putting limits on it, which no one resents, since I've realized that this expectation to care for people is self imposed and not by others, if this makes any sense. Anyways it feels good to say to myself that its OK to be OK even if other's I care about aren't. On the surface this may sound selfish but I have a right to be happy and secure, independent of whatever pain and suffering that exists in this world. It's taken me forever to realize this but perhaps its finally sinking in.
Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.