GBTQ Discussion Group and Healing CircleSundays – 9pm -11pm Eastern
Group Begins Sunday, May 30th
Sunday evenings – part discussion group, part healing circle, but all for us, the GBTQ [Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered, Questioning] members of MaleSurvivor. The purpose of having a GBTQ specific group is to give us a safe environment in which to use our voices to discuss our issues. Often times GBTQ members feel they must censor themselves when speaking of our issues to keep from triggering other members. Having our own group, we empower us to delve into issues that we may shy from discussing elsewhere on the site.
Note that this group is a discussion group as well as a healing circle. The concept is to allow us to openly discuss issues that may pertain to the site or topics that are more general as opposed to a specific member’s recovery. For example, we could discuss MaleSurvivor’s support of its GBTQ members or society’s misconceptions of homosexuals, pedophiles and male survivors. We will also have time where we share the floor with survivors to give support and work on recovery.
In order to promote orderliness and a sense of safety in this environment, some structure and rules have to be in place:
- What is said in the room stays in the room. Confidentiality is important in dealing with sharing sensitive subject matter. If you wish to share about yourself in any threads, then that is totally up to you. The exception will be information we wish to be shared to enhance the site or site management to make MaleSurvivor safer or more effective as a place of recovery.
- Check out with the room before leaving for the evening. Dropping out without a graceful exit tends to raise questions with others like “Did I say something wrong?” If you must leave quickly, try to send the facilitator a quick PM and he can pass that on to the rest of the room. Try also to understand someone may be having technical difficulties that necessitate an unplanned exit.
- No personal attacks or name calling of any kind on other members of the circle. We are all looking for support here, not criticism.
- Information gained from sources outside of the circle (i.e. chat, PMs, etc.) should not be disclosed inside the circle. Confidentiality should be maintained as a two-way street.
Andy aka FormerTexanSIGNUP:
Either post to this thread or, to maintain privacy, send a PM to FormerTexan.GROUP INSTRUCTIONS AND ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
Meet in chat at start time and you will be invited into the private Healing Circle room.IMPORTANT
If your chat name is different than here on the Discussion Board please let us know so you wouldn't be overlooked!
Below is some information on how the meetings work, please print this out so you can reference it during the meeting. CHECK IN
When we start the Group, there may be some short announcements before check-in time. Afterwards, when check-in time has arrived, type “CI” if you would like to do a check-in. If you feel inclined to pass, simply type “CI pass.” Check Ins should be a sentence or two about how you are doingREQUESTING FLOOR TIME
If you have a specific issue to share for the evening which needs some length of time, during check-in time would be the best time to indicate that time is needed for sharing. Simply state that you could “use some time” or “need time.” In a two-hour time frame, the maximum number of people who “need time” is best kept at four or less. If we have eight people needing time, no one would get any productive sharing or feedback for the evening. If there happens to be time after everyone has shared, anyone else who wants to share will be notified via PM that there is X amount of time left if they wish to utilize this.
Always type “done” when you are finished sharing feedback, questions, etc, for your turn. This indicates to the facilitator that the next person can be called upon to share their feedback, question, etc. FEEDBACK
If you feel compelled to offer feedback for someone, simply type “FB” and when the last person who was sharing types “done” you should be called upon next. Once in a while a person may get skipped amidst the managing of a busy room, and one of us relies on another to keep us up on who requests feedback, so please be patient if you were overlooked, and you will be called upon. If you are the one who is sharing a specific item and desire no feedback, please let the room know by typing “No feedback please.” Often it is a policy of the facilitator to ask if a sharer is alright with questions or feedback.All of us are not required to share feedback, so if you feel moved to just listen and observe for the evening, this is okay. Periods of silence in the room are also okay, if any.If you feel especially triggered by content shared during the evening, PM the facilitator and the triggering content will be discussed.
Have a word processor open. When waiting for your turn, write your comment or question in your word processor and copy and paste it in.CHECK OUT
At the end of the Healing Circle session, which is roughly two hours long, we will have check-outs which are not unlike check-ins. Type “CO” if you have a check-out or “CO pass” if not.
Please make every effort you can to be on time to get the most out of your meeting time. Yes, things happen and come up at the last minute.