We live in a patriarchy, and that means people are afraid of accepting the idea of man as victim; man as not being in control of his fate. It challenges everything that most people hold near and dear, that is, the gender binary, and gender roles that are suppose to tell us who we are and how we are suppose to behave.
I'm trying to put the role of victim behind me, but even when I do, I'll still be a survivor. I own this. Unenlightened sycophants who can't see passed their kitchen blinds or office cubicles can not take this from me, because I know that they are just afraid. Far more, in fact, than I am.