...Since I have never been in love and probaby never will be,...
no argument that i see.
i understand we each have different views about "the end," so we embrace these differences in the name of diversity. i believe in love. and maybe that is the same as saying i believe in god. i don't know.
i just know that love is real, it is something that i know exists. it existed inside of me before the rape. it came back a decade later, and it is the most powerful emotion and bond that humans can feel for each other. what a gift! if there is a god, indeed he gave us that gift! so we need to use it -- or we disappoint god.
given what you wrote, i should clarify my definition of "meaningless." in my view, helping others or doing one's job, living to the best of our ability - may not be meaningless as such. my definition in this context is more of an ultimate achievement obtained while maintaining those other 'meaningful' tasks day-to-day. i guess i consider those tasks "a given" while we are alive, these are carried out without second thought or any effort.
fascinating to me though that you wrote "...I have never been in love and probably never will be
do not take this the wrong way or personally please, but how the hell can anyone say "probably never will be?"
is this society so hurt by past emotions; broken hearts; being gay; broken trust; our parents; that we are directed to practice safety as the ultimate happiness and key to success? just being "good enough" buddies, or good enough husbands/wives is the only way in which no one gets hurt?
i'm a risk taker - in matters of the heart (obviously not in career! lol.) but i am this way due to the recovery process.
sounds simple, but that is an extremely powerful conclusion. the ability was taken from me, and i learned how to find it again.
i relearned how to love. i relearned how to love myself... i learned how to share that love, by giving it without condition (extremely difficult). its just unfortunate that both those times, way past, that the men in those two cases feared love.
i realize many men are not there yet. here. and off here. have dated far too many men in my life who could not even feel, outside of sex, and thus could never imagine themselves in love. naturally, they were not good matches for me - even back in the '80s when i was just starting therapy.
and maybe what you wrote -- signals that more men have adopted the same approach. they will never find love either, because they do not think they will - so why bother taking the risk, why bother trying? in the meantime, i'm here with open arms! ha, what irony!
teach me please, someone. is it that guys don't care to work towards finding a relationship? is the risk of being a broken man so great in our day, so intense an emotion, that only a few can handle it?
no risk on cragislist, right? guys want to see what is out there.... because that is "good enough" and they get touched once and awhile in return during their busy day. why would they need more than that if they believe "i could never fall in love."?