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#319500 - 01/20/10 12:06 PM Issue of telling
Dale English Offline
Newsletter Founder/Producer
Registered: 06/08/03
Posts: 448
Loc: PA
Hey everyone,

Found this study online today. No surprises!


#319503 - 01/20/10 12:48 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: Dale English]
onlyakid Offline

Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1577
Loc: New Jersey
Yeah the only surprise is that the amount of time isn't longer. Most of the people on this site waited decades. I know I waited
13-14 years before I said anything to anyone including a therapist.

"Being with people that understand you...Priceless"

"and i don't want the world to see me, cause i don't think that they'd understand"

"You don't know what love just do as your told"

"My life has changed. What you take as a simple thing, is not so simple for me anymore"

#319504 - 01/20/10 01:00 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: onlyakid]
InsideTheWall Offline

Registered: 01/10/09
Posts: 299
It was about 10 years for me.

#319506 - 01/20/10 01:18 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: InsideTheWall]
LandOfShadow Offline

Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 684
Loc: Minneapolis, Minnesota USA
Part of the problem for me is it took a therapist to convince me it was important, a big deal, ok even abuse and point out all the effects showing up in my life.

Et par le pouvoir d’un mot Je recommence ma vie, Je suis né pour te connaître, Pour te nommer

And by the power of a single word I can begin my life again, I was born to know you, to name you

Paul Eluard

#319508 - 01/20/10 01:40 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: LandOfShadow]
DJsport Offline

Registered: 02/20/08
Posts: 1742
I told the first time 3 years ago which was 36 years later.

I am happy I told even then. Kudos to all of us.

Live to your fullest potential

Never make someone a priority if your only an option

#319516 - 01/20/10 02:50 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: DJsport]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my fraternal brothers.

For this old boy, it took me 56 years after the last act of sexual agression on me. I was 14 when it ended. And i was 69 1/2 years old when it all came out. I told my primary care physician.

Dealing with it ever since, as we all do.

Heaal well my fraternal brothers, heal well.

Little Pete & big Pete..but 1 (Irishmoose).

Edited by petercorbett (01/20/10 02:51 PM)
Edit Reason: sentence
Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

#319518 - 01/20/10 03:02 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: petercorbett]
Obi Offline

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1634
Loc: kansas

Edited by Obi (04/30/13 10:27 PM)
live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

#319571 - 01/21/10 12:19 AM Re: Issue of telling [Re: Obi]
ericc Offline

Registered: 01/04/08
Posts: 1988
I know for myself, the big damage came from keeping it all inside and disconnecting from life (or letting it spill out all over the place with my coping mechanisms.) When I was ready to share in many ways I was silenced because either my family didn't want to hear from me or the professionals didn't ask the right questions that would have helped me see it as abuse. Well, at least I no longer suffer in that silence but there is still suffering that comes from having not dealt with it earlier. Not much I can do but try and make things better today.


Actually, one cool thing about this article is that is acknowledged both female and male abuse. Maybe people are starting to get it.


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