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#318241 - 01/09/10 02:31 AM belonging
jls Offline

Registered: 03/06/09
Posts: 1142
It sounds screwed up but I feel that I don't belong in this chat room. I don't know why but I just don't. Even with the therapy I'm receiving I'm having a hard time receiving the help I need for being sexually abused as a kid. It makes it no one's fault by my own I guess. JS

Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.

#318243 - 01/09/10 02:49 AM Re: belonging [Re: jls]
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/28/08
Posts: 2615
Loc: Central PA
I hear ya JLS.

I don't feel that I "belong" anywhere.

ALWAYS feel that I'm on the outside.

#318248 - 01/09/10 03:10 AM Re: belonging [Re: JustScott]
behindthewall Offline

Registered: 07/28/08
Posts: 126
Loc: US
I feel the same way man, not just about chat but the site and life in general. Matter of fact, had a talk with Michael about that a few days ago. You're not alone.

#318280 - 01/09/10 11:30 AM Re: belonging [Re: behindthewall]
claretblue Offline

Registered: 08/30/09
Posts: 97
Loc: UK
I also feel the same way about this site, life in general, and even belonging to my own body at times. You're not alone jls.

The more you're afraid of, the less you accomplish.

Taiwanese woman.

#318289 - 01/09/10 01:09 PM Re: belonging [Re: jls]
Sans Logos Offline

Registered: 05/31/03
Posts: 5796
Loc: in my own world in pittsburgh,...
i hear ya luis. even when i go to chat, i rarely participate in the banter. i'm not very good at casual pointless conversation, i'm much better at frivolity, but that's just me ... it's not the site's fault, and no one is saying that here. i speak further about this important topic here, if you care to read more.

all the best,


Ron Schulz, MSPC, NCC

#318296 - 01/09/10 02:23 PM Re: belonging [Re: jls]
kidneythis Offline

Registered: 11/09/09
Posts: 1558
I have that sort of "you aint from around here are ya?" feeling in a lot of situations. It comes up on here as well.
Its disconcerting and undermining of ones inner peace. I think you know you do belong here and just maybe feel this feeling when you can't identify something internal or express a thought in such a way as to get the response you think/know it deserves.

Well thats a weee bit o projection there :-], I hope it isn't going to far.

As Mark Twain once quipped, history may not repeat itself, but it does rhyme.

#318299 - 01/09/10 03:01 PM Re: belonging [Re: kidneythis]
pal_ Offline

Registered: 01/07/04
Posts: 27
It looks like I/we all fit into the group of guys that don't fit in. crazy I can certainly relate - Most times I feel like such a fraud, with friends, with family, at work, even when I was in group therapy.

...think you may be onto something Kidney.

Hang there JLS, and all you guys... we DO belong, we DO fit in!!


Silent company is often more healing than words of advice...

#318361 - 01/10/10 02:17 AM Re: belonging [Re: pal_]
InsideTheWall Offline

Registered: 01/10/09
Posts: 297
I'm the same way. I just don't feel like I blend in anywhere.

#318365 - 01/10/10 02:45 AM Re: belonging [Re: jls]
DJsport Offline

Registered: 02/20/08
Posts: 1742
Originally Posted By: jls
It makes it no one's fault by my own I guess. JS


It is not your fault. I have the same issue about feeling fear in the chat room. I have issues too.

I would say pick someone to chat with as a PM and ask him to help you if you need.

It is ok. YOur not alone. The nice thing is others have the same issue.


Edited by DJsport (01/10/10 02:49 AM)
Live to your fullest potential

Never make someone a priority if your only an option

#318616 - 01/12/10 05:20 PM Re: belonging [Re: DJsport]
J.R. Offline

Registered: 11/13/07
Posts: 312
Loc: United States
I too have some issues with the site, especially the chat. It seems too often that people go in there and talk about random things, just to shoot the shit. I like to use this site to connect with others who have gone through trauma, so for me, I want to talk about the things that are hard for me to tell anyone else close to me who hasn't experienced them.

So, I hear ya. Maybe some of us who want to talk about certain things like this can create a room and go from there. Just an idea.


Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. -Helen Keller

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