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#310350 - 11/14/09 07:10 AM Re: My Journal [Re: catfish86]
givemestrength Offline

Registered: 10/11/09
Posts: 29
Oh my gosh! Sadly you are right Robbie society is so ignorant and naieve to the fact that csa even happens let alone it's effects...I'm sorry such an negative, innaccurate understanding that so many people hold has effected you personally...can't imagine how much that must have hurt you...
I know you said you aren't angry but I think we should be...otherwiae how is this innaccurate perception going to change? (sorry will climb back down off my soapbox now...that was partly the wife of a survivor and partly the social worker in me talking...)

I'm so sorry for your hurt from this latest betrayal and injustice...good on you for connecting with everyone on here through your posts...hope it helps you get through this...

You are not disgusting....the lack of awareness and compassion you (and csa in general) is shown is disgusting!

#310795 - 11/18/09 06:57 AM Re: My Journal [Re: givemestrength]
dangal Offline
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Registered: 02/09/08
Posts: 222
Loc: seattle area
I'm very sorry that your wife is as cruel of a person as she is. I can't imagine betraying my husband in such a disgusting way. I'm not sure how she is looking at herself in mirror. It is the most self serving thing I have ever heard. Being that she has lived with you she must know how that would cause you pain and trama. She didn't care, she cares only about "winning" at all costs. She has some issues that are honestly pretty scary. I have read your posts over the past year and you have been a person who is hurt and needs support and also someone who is there to offer support. There is nothing evil about you. You have been damaged and hurt by the lowest of the low and none of that is your fault, how dare someone use your abuse against you. I'm pissed for you, I can't imagine how you are feeling. I hope you can fight back somehow, but I'm sure you are feeling pretty darn defeated. How that can't be a breach of privacy I don't know. I just know it's wrong on every level. I'm wishing you good luck. I wish there was something to be done but I know there is nothing......take care.

Life is to short to blend in

#311213 - 11/21/09 01:38 AM Re: My Journal [Re: dangal]
king tut Offline

Registered: 02/13/08
Posts: 2488
Loc: UK

I am so angry that your wife did this. I am so angry that people are so stupid. If this had happened to me i would go absolutely crazy. It pains me because i know how much you love your children. It boggles my mind. You have helped me in my healing, and it really hurts to see you being treated this way. I really hope this works out well and you get justice.



#311224 - 11/21/09 02:58 AM Re: My Journal [Re: king tut]
catfish86 Offline

Registered: 10/27/09
Posts: 832
Loc: Ohio
One thing I have learned, being a paralegal and involved in litigation: Sometimes dropping a big bombshell on your opponent has a backlash effect as a judge or jury looks at the person dropping the bomb with one thought: WHAT AN A%$HOLE! They then are reluctant to give credence to anything that person says. Just stick to you guns as far as "Yes, I have suffered terribly. But remember that I haven't DONE anything."

God grant me
The Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.

#312485 - 12/01/09 06:02 AM Re: My Journal [Re: catfish86]
Shadow+Walker Offline

Registered: 04/17/09
Posts: 287
Loc: desolate foggy nights, USA
I've been on the road and haven't checked in at MS for about a month. Wow - This IS a gut punch!!! It makes me royally pissed off for you! I have always respected and honored people who can journal. I just can't bring myself to do it because my fear of violation has kept me from being able to do this kind of work in my recovery. I write a page or two and have to destroy it for fear that somebody may read what happened to me or what I think about it. I am scared spitless until I shred or burn it. So what happened to you really raises my hackles. I second what Catfish86 just said about your attorney hopefully pointing out that what happened TO you is not what is done BY you. A victim is a victim and if they aren't supposed to feel hurt and angry then why do criminal courts allow victim impact statements to be presented? Just because it is civil court does that mean that victims are not allowed to have normal reactions to really abnormal and creepy things that happened to them? Well if the judge is no more astute than that, then thank God he / she isn't sitting on the bench in the criminal court!!!!!

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, love and self discipline. (St Paul, 2Timothy 1:7) NIV

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#313135 - 12/06/09 04:26 AM Re: My Journal [Re: Shadow+Walker]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
I have little use for people whom exploit weak points like she does. This is all very sad. My kids miss me and I miss them terribly. Its been 8 FULL FARGING MONTHS and $50,000 since being able to see my kids without a supervisor sitting next to me.

#313138 - 12/06/09 04:51 AM Re: My Journal [Re: Still]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my fraternal brother.

My brother Robbie, i do not have eloquent words, But, my brother, i offer litle Pete & big Pete's compassion, understanding & love.

I hope that someday you will get the peace & serenity that you so richly deserve.

Heal well my brother Robbie. heal well.

Little Pete & big Pete..but 1 (Irishmoose).

Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

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