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#312914 - 12/04/09 10:23 AM Jealousy?
Jaifian Offline

Registered: 05/26/09
Posts: 220
Loc: washington state, USA
Is it jealousy if you are hurt by someone you love saying they love someone else more than you?

#312920 - 12/04/09 01:03 PM Re: Jealousy? [Re: Jaifian]
Trucker51 Offline

Registered: 05/21/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO
It would be perfectly normal and you would have every right to feel hurt in that situation. If you were to try some kind of vengeful action based on that hurt or frustration, that would be termed a jealous action.


"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark

#312939 - 12/04/09 04:00 PM Re: Jealousy? [Re: Trucker51]
DJsport Offline

Registered: 02/20/08
Posts: 1742
***Sigh*** Doug - I feel Jealous in situations like this. Jealousy is a common feeling in all humans. I agree with Mark it is normal and you have every reason to feel jealous in this situation.

People including myself have reacted to feeling jealous for ever. When I am jealous I need to nurture myself because when I am in that place -I am hurt.

I have been jealous here - not from being in love. For me the csa has caused me to react to being jealous in a very negative way.

Hug yourself and know your a good man.


Edited by DJsport (12/04/09 05:47 PM)
Live to your fullest potential

Never make someone a priority if your only an option

#313032 - 12/05/09 11:41 AM Re: Jealousy? [Re: DJsport]
Jaifian Offline

Registered: 05/26/09
Posts: 220
Loc: washington state, USA
I guess because I'm not possessive in terms of wanting people all to myself (monogamy and all that) I don't consider myself the jealous type, but when someone I adore tells me in no uncertain terms that someone else scores higher in his affections, it's hard not to feel like there's something wrong with me.

Part of it though I now know is that he's having more fun sexually with other people because with me, he's worried about triggering my issues where he doesn't have to deal with that concern with his other lovers.

So once again, my abusers are responsible for a lot of the hurt in my life long after the abuse.


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