My H told me about the abuse. Not as bad as I thought but it did happen more than once - he can remember 3 times over the course of the summer when he was 8 yrs old. It may have happened more than that, he doesn't remember everything.
As far as recovery, it's a closed book with him. He is willing to go to therapy, but aside from that, he would rather not think about it.
As for us, we've been living our "normal" lives, or at least acting like it. This past week, I've been happy. But in the back of my mind, I am still reevaluating our entire relationship. Anger, paranoia and the inability to trust him are still holding me back. There are suspicious memories that still don't make sense. He said that I know everything now, there are no lies or secrets, but I have a hard time believing him. It's frustrating, and driving me absolutely nuts.
He's the kind of man that can, obviously, keep a secret all his life and be content with that. I can't keep a secret for more than an hour without it seriously bothering me.
I've been feeling like things were going to work out. Then I remembered something and now I've done a complete 180.
I'm thinking therapy is a really good idea, lol.
Edited by anotherCircle (11/19/09 12:16 AM)
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