My father was an alcoholic also, and he was the one who abused me, so I can relate to your story in that way. Being an adult child of an alcoholic has it's own separate set of issues to recover from. A good book on this subject is called "Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Janet Woititz. I've read it and it is a must read for all ACoA's. There are also great recovery books for male victims of childhood sexual abuse, and one of them is called "Beyond Betrayal" by Richard Gartner. I've read that and it is a great book also. I'm glad you're starting to post and interact here. May you benefit greatly by taking that step.
Don't feel rushed into having to tell your story. Go at your own pace. I think what you've done here is a very good start. There is a separate forum called "Survivor Stories" for us to post our stories in. It is locked so that people can't respond to what we post there. There is a very good reason for this.
My best to you,
I see recovery as a lifelong journey rather than a final destination, a journey, though, which can have many successes along the way.
WoR Alumnus - Hope Springs, OH, October 2009
My avatar is the farmhouse at the Hope Spring, OH WoR. It's a nice place.