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#309835 - 11/10/09 02:23 AM The Story So Far
jcm Offline

Registered: 05/27/09
Posts: 37
Loc: Los Angeles, CA

Edited by jcm (01/21/10 01:19 AM)

#309839 - 11/10/09 03:19 AM Re: The Story So Far [Re: jcm]
Sans Logos Offline

Registered: 05/31/03
Posts: 5796
Loc: in my own world in pittsburgh,...

you have been thru a lot already and it took a lot of courage to break the silence and share your story. please don't take on yourself the shame of your father; you did nothing to deserve that. you are one brave young man, and an inspiration to all of us. it's obvious that you have a survivor spirit in you, and that you will transcend the difficulties of your earlier life.

all the best,


Ron Schulz, MSPC, NCC

#309841 - 11/10/09 03:30 AM Re: The Story So Far [Re: Sans Logos]
Daniel_forgotten Offline

Registered: 02/07/09
Posts: 479
u r very strong for letting all that out now jcm.

hope u r ok.

#309842 - 11/10/09 03:53 AM Re: The Story So Far [Re: Daniel_forgotten]
Casmir213 Offline

Registered: 05/14/09
Posts: 851
Loc: Northeast, USA

My father was an alcoholic also, and he was the one who abused me, so I can relate to your story in that way. Being an adult child of an alcoholic has it's own separate set of issues to recover from. A good book on this subject is called "Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Janet Woititz. I've read it and it is a must read for all ACoA's. There are also great recovery books for male victims of childhood sexual abuse, and one of them is called "Beyond Betrayal" by Richard Gartner. I've read that and it is a great book also. I'm glad you're starting to post and interact here. May you benefit greatly by taking that step.

Don't feel rushed into having to tell your story. Go at your own pace. I think what you've done here is a very good start. There is a separate forum called "Survivor Stories" for us to post our stories in. It is locked so that people can't respond to what we post there. There is a very good reason for this.

My best to you,


I see recovery as a lifelong journey rather than a final destination, a journey, though, which can have many successes along the way.

WoR Alumnus - Hope Springs, OH, October 2009

My avatar is the farmhouse at the Hope Spring, OH WoR. It's a nice place.

#309862 - 11/10/09 05:54 AM Re: The Story So Far [Re: Casmir213]
sono Offline

Registered: 07/19/09
Posts: 1069
Congratulations on breaking the silence about your abuse and your life. You own it now and it's yours to do with as you please. I wish you much success in the healing.


the family
the perp

#309863 - 11/10/09 06:20 AM Re: The Story So Far [Re: sono]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA

Your story is well written: It is clear and with good word choice. It is the beginning of a journey of healing.

I wish you the best of success. We will try to support you here in any way we can.


pufferfish whistle


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