I like what you said about him taking his own time, and not having your own safety and well being at risk. Self care in situations such as these is crucial. I recently learned of a concept called 2/3's empathy, where a helper should never 100% empathize with people's suffering lest they find themselves there as well. In this way you won't be able to help. I kind of compare it to the trying to rescue a drowning man scenario.

Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.