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#301200 - 09/01/09 02:55 PM Obligated
sweetdreams Offline

Registered: 05/26/09
Posts: 3
Hi..I would like thoughts on this question..If a male survivor says they feel "obligated" what does that mean? I also read that in a child sexual abuse book yesterday..I am a female who was abused yet and I am not clear what that means..I would prefer a male answer this question if they too have those feelings or a female if she has a male person in her life who uses that expression..Thanks

#301202 - 09/01/09 03:27 PM Re: Obligated [Re: sweetdreams]
garr Offline

Registered: 07/29/09
Posts: 44
I guess when I say that I feel "obligated" to do something, it generally means that I feel I have to do it in order to please someone else. It means that I recognize that they haven't overtly told me that I need to do something, but I sense that I have to. I don't generally use the term that much that I can think of, but I don't think I generally use it to describe something that I want to do.

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#301213 - 09/01/09 04:33 PM Re: Obligated [Re: garr]
sweetdreams Offline

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I am looking for a exact real example of how you felt obligated and how it ties in with past abuse..Try and put it into words as best as you can


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