i'm hoping for hospitalization for you. you'd have a roof and basic physical and mental health needs taken care of, at least for time while you get your insides straightened out and a little better situated.
i think being in this position is the fear of many of us here, and sadly for many, this is a reality. many of us are one lucky day away from having the box fall out of the bottom of our box....hope and all
i can only hope for you and your wife, that you are soon able to get things back on track. i'll be thinking about you as you go through this brother, and believing that this will work out for you.
all the best,