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#299919 - 08/19/09 09:27 PM tough decision
DJsport Offline

Registered: 02/20/08
Posts: 1742
Hi, guys.

I am in a tough spot financially like alot of others I am sure. I just had a conversation with a financial counselor and I am in a tough spot she states.

I am in a better place with my anxiety and PTSD but, in the past even within the last 1.5 years I made some very bad decisions.

Now, I am faced with several options which all boil down to backing away from "recovery" although not all together.

I need to get a pt job on top of a ft job and school.

Or I need to file bankruptcy.

Bottom line is I need more money - join the crowd right.

1.5 years ago I made a decision that almost cost me my life.

Today, I am facing the options and will make decisions when I can.

I am NOT grounded or think I am NOT grounded enough in my own life with feeling the good feelings. Maybe I am there.

I still think about the old stuff though.

I love being here and am scared to let go of some of my recovery people.


Live to your fullest potential

Never make someone a priority if your only an option

#299920 - 08/19/09 09:35 PM Re: tough decision [Re: DJsport]
michael banks Offline

Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca

School,ft job and now needing a pt job on top of that it seems like a recipe for disaster to me. To me bankrupcy sometimes is the only option. Companies do it all the time. Sometimes we need to make a fresh start. But your the one who has to decide what is right for you.


To own one's shadow is the highest moral act of a human.
-Robert Johnson-

"IT ought never be forgotten that the past is the parent of the future" John C. Calhoun

WOR Alumni Sequoia 2009

#300063 - 08/21/09 02:40 AM Re: tough decision [Re: michael banks]
M3 Offline

Registered: 09/05/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
Make sure you discuss with everyone how bankruptcy is going to affect your schooling. Are you getting student loans? Will you be able to continue getting loans? Make sure you are very informed before making any decisions. There are bankruptcy attorneys - I would recommend speaking with one sooner than later. That was the biggest mistake I made in the scheme of things.

Peace and love...


#300346 - 08/24/09 03:51 AM Re: tough decision [Re: M3]
MFKjr Offline

Registered: 05/22/09
Posts: 37
Loc: Boston, Ma
Well I hope everything goes well DJ, I know life throws you curveballs, but I believe you can overcome a money issue smile if you can face what you faced in your life.

#300454 - 08/25/09 04:11 AM Re: tough decision [Re: MFKjr]
nomansanisland Offline

Registered: 02/03/09
Posts: 156
Loc: NM
life throws you cue balls...

they hurt..

youll be fine keep heading in the direction you are going,

changes always hurt..
you know this...

" If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drum. Let him step to the music he hears, however measured or far away." Henry David Thoreau


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