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#29148 - 05/07/02 09:46 AM Abusers abusing
fenics Offline
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Registered: 03/25/02
Posts: 25
Loc: Midlands UK
Tinfoil's question about fake-survivors also raised the question of whether there is a link between being abused and then going on to abuse others.

I have come across instances where children as young as 5 have abused other children. In most of these cases it seems to me that they must be acting out their own abuse in order to try to understand what happens to them and to try to get some power back by exercising it over others. I assume that these children, unless identified and treated effectively (stopping their abuse, helping them to come to terms with it, helping them to understand and control their own urges for revenge and dominance, etc), will be much more likely than others to go on to be adult abusers in their turn.


#29149 - 05/07/02 07:06 PM Re: Abusers abusing
getteddie Offline

Registered: 07/19/01
Posts: 226
Loc: Cub Hill, Md
The abused becoming the abusers is true but it goes much farther then that!!! Now they are checking back on all killers, outlaws, ect...and find that they are survivors of childhood SA themselfs. Childhood SA has a big hand in making the world a fucked up place...but if every SA child grew up to be an abuser...everyone would get abused...lots don't because of "Dissocation" with mines a little smarter then the rest go into dissocation...some just go away while being raped...the SA comes back in the form of flashbacks years later...DD..PTSD....Others dissocate by turning into another person and let this person take the pain of the SA...DID...Parts can come out anytime and raise hell!!!! I have DD..PTSD...and will never be an abuser because my mind was so afraid of this happening that it shut down the use of my cock...this really sucks..but what can I do but go to the therapy and take my meds, etc? There are many more reasons why some abused don't abuse. If you are..get help and stop...if not, for whatever reason.. be thankfull!!!!!!


#29150 - 05/08/02 12:25 AM Re: Abusers abusing
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
how I agree with getteddie, after 28 years of marriage to a woman who adores kids we have none, I have always avoided 1 to 1 contact with nephews and nieces, all kids.
I didn't trust myself, I had no Idea of my limits and control even though all my fantasies were / are about sex with another adult male I couldn't be sure that I wasn't really the perv'
This is probably the biggest fuck up in my life. And now, having sorted myself out some I can reflect on what might have been. Tonight we have been out with my brother in laws family and his 3 kids, all in their 20's. It makes me mad to have been forced to miss so much by my fears. Fears given me by some other bastards.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#29151 - 05/08/02 01:23 AM Re: Abusers abusing

If some guy shoved a telephone pole up my ass when I was a kid I'd remember it just fine. I don't think I'd forget it and years later start wondering why my asshole's the size of New York City. And then it would slowely dawn on me "Oh yeah. Well hey some gross old bastard buttfucked me widdle arsehole. It hurt like holy fucking hell". He ponders awhile,thinks "Gosh. I think I've got a compulsion. It's beyond my control. I simply must go find a little boy somewhere and rape his asshole till he bleeds & screams. Yes,that's what I must do. It makes perfectly logical sense".


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