I have few real friends. I mean Real Friends. When I saw the following I thought of you guys and you know who you are. I thought it would be interesting to share these and feel free to share some of your own thoughts on this subject. Most of us do not make friends easily. Some do not feel they need them but ......
Friends are God's way of apologizing for our families. ( my personal fav.)
It's the ones you can call up at 4 AM that matter. ..Marlene Dietrich
A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. Walter Winchell
The best mirror is an old friend, George Herbert
Freedom49, thank you for starting this topic. This hits so close to home. In my life I seem to make acquaintances. Especially now that I'm in college I can't seem to establish friends or make friends. I thought by moving to another state and starting over I could create this whole new life for myself, so far it ain't happening. I like your quotes. I think they are all true and funny.
I'd love to be able to have a close male friend in my life. I've tried to make some close male friends down here but it always seems and feels like I'm making all the effort. I get so tired of that an then just give up on the potential relationship cause I don't feel like they are meeting me half way, a quarter of the way. Not at all.
I've often wondered if I push guys away for fear of getting hurt. I've also come to realize not fully loving and accepting myself for who I am is what holds me back in my life. The old saying if you can't love yourself how can you expect to love anyone else is so very true.
People I meet all the time tell me what a kind, generous, overall nice guy and that they like me. So why can't I go any farther with these people.
I think a big part of it has do with the fact that I have hang ups about my sexuality and fear of my sexuality, fear of showing myself, opening up those deep wounds to others, so I just build walls and walls around me. Just high enough so people can say Hi but not low enough for anyone to get in.
I really hate this about myself. I want to be able to love myself to really love another person, unapologetically. I want to be able to hold that person's hand and really feel connected to another soul in our world. Have someone to call my own.
This is where it gets problematic, how can I learn to love myself? Do I need a trained professional, do I need a good book, what is the answer to this question, this may be holding me back.
And while this is good that I have some idea of what I'd like it doesn't have all the answers and holding myself back or denying feelings won't change things.
I have to love Charlie for Charlie, not for what the world wants him to be, expects him to be, wishes he were, just love him unapologetically without fear.
Well I thank you for allowing me the time to ramble and add my thoughts to your topic. Again thank you for starting such a thought provoking topic.