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#285590 - 04/28/09 10:15 AM compensatory badness?
dark empathy Offline

Registered: 11/26/07
Posts: 2695
Loc: durham, north england
And So, after an absolutely fantastic week last week, ----- here I am again, apathy central, the land of grey.

I'd almost think it was my emotions paying me out for all the stuff I did last week which included actually getting serious amounts of work done on my thesis, helping out a couple of friends and actually feeling I'd done something worth while for a change, then, yesterday,going out for general relaxation with a couple of other friends, ---- one of whome I've not seen for ages, discussing everything from Kefka to computer games, ---- and realizing "hold on a minute, not that much has changed"

Then on monday things are bad, and today, worse, ---- and I'm supposed to be going out this evening.

Part of me really doesn't feel like it, but I'm obliged to sinse otherwise I'll not know what's going on in this new production.

sometimes I think things are getting better just on the basis that I have less time in this sort of state, ----- other times I just don't know.

#285604 - 04/28/09 02:03 PM Re: compensatory badness? [Re: dark empathy]
Chucky74 Offline

Registered: 04/15/09
Posts: 17
Loc: Australia
dark empathy, no one should ever feel bad about feeling good. I love to hear when someone has had a good week. For me they are few and far between, but when you post yours I realize that there is still hope for me. cheers.

#285615 - 04/28/09 04:42 PM Re: compensatory badness? [Re: dark empathy]
nansogre Offline

Registered: 04/16/09
Posts: 13
Loc: PA
Hi Dark empathy,

I had a similar experience last week. I really felt down and I thought I was going to be miserable at a dinner I had to attend.
Somewhere during it though my spirits lifted and I felt really good again. I really didnít want to go, and I am so glad I did.
Hopefully yours works out the same.


"A creative outlet provides a spiritual release and helps facilitate a healthy mental balance"-Patrick(Spongebob's buddy)

#285751 - 04/29/09 08:56 PM Re: compensatory badness? [Re: nansogre]
DannyT Offline

Registered: 09/14/03
Posts: 645
D. E.,

To me it's important to let each day be its own day. And I'm glad to think about this because I forgot something that really helps me, and maybe will help you, too.

At the end of each day, before going to sleep, play the day back, all the events, and ask yourself whether it was a good day or not. If it was, think about the pattern that made it good. Write the pattern down, and try to play the game the same way (relatively speaking) the next day. If it's a bad day, look at the pattern of the day and notice what makes a day bad, pattern wise. Try not to follow the bad pattern.

I learned from this that productive days (no matter what I'm producing) are always good days.

Thanks for helping me remember that!


Edited by DannyT (04/29/09 08:57 PM)

#285821 - 04/30/09 11:30 AM Re: compensatory badness? [Re: dark empathy]
Spike47 Offline

Registered: 04/30/09
Posts: 2
Glad that you had a good week. Also glad to see that others are experiencing similar bouts of ups and downs. This is tough stuff

#285823 - 04/30/09 11:50 AM Re: compensatory badness? [Re: Spike47]
Juni Offline

Registered: 12/10/08
Posts: 502
Loc: Florida, WPB
Welcome Spike!

Yes, peaks and valleys are common in recovery.
You are in a safe place.

Heal well. smile


Today I'm O.K.
One day at a time I make the journey.


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