In the dark - I sleep soundly now.
And when I've told people about my past I've never yet had any reaction other than 'good' - ok that ranges from "oh shit, that must have been bad ?" and moving on swiftly, but I take that as someone who just doesn't know what to say or do, I don't take it as 'get away from me you perv !" right through to long, empathic conversations with the unlikliest of people.
I'm not denying that there are people who treat Survivors as "damaged goods" and I'll likely meet them sometime. But they aren't my problem really, the problem is theirs. All I have to do is move on.
I know it's different if friends or family treat you as damaged, but I think I would distance myself from them if I felt I had too for my benefit.
Call it retreating or whatever, but lifes too short for me to worry about people like that.
Maybe the British reserve isn't the reality it's made out to be ? I have experienced nothing but good responses so far.
And at a push I'll admit to Six, with mitigating circumstances ( or should that be diminshed responsibility ? )