..."there is no help in the state of Maryland for male survivors of rape...which they said was the main maker of Peds!!!"
That phrase in a newspaper just keeps men from coming forward and talking about the SA that happened to them. The fear of telling someone that I was abused and having them think that I'm an abuser is just devastating to me. There was a talk given by a therapist that treats perps that stated over 85% of the perps SAID they had been victims of childhood SA, but when asked about it with a lie detector the actual figure was about 43%. Over half of the perps lied about it, big surprise there, huh? He said that perps know to say that they were abused as an excuse for the SA that they do to others.
There are 12 to 20 percent of the male population that have been sexually abused (per the FBI statistics) but the perps are only a small fraction of one percent. When male survivors speak out and tell of the crap that happened to them when they were young they shouldn't have to fear that a short sighted ill informed public would think automatically that they were an offender too. In this therapists talk of the behaviours of offenders a lot of the behaviours were similar to those of suvivors with the exception that the vast majority of the survivors only victimize themselves not others. With support from fellow survivors maybe we can all learn that we don't have to become victims of our own past and we can continue to grow into the men we want to be.
There, I've had my rant. Any comments?
I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center.
Kurt Vonnegut (1922-2007)