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#282254 - 04/04/09 10:27 PM Sleep
jls Offline

Registered: 03/06/09
Posts: 1142
I don't know if this constitues a real health concern but I go to bed late and wake up early everyday, which leaves me exhausted into the evening when I have to work. This also happens on my days off. Anyways if anyone else experiences this please write. Thanks JS

Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.

#282259 - 04/04/09 11:32 PM Re: Sleep [Re: jls]
Tadd Offline

Registered: 12/03/08
Posts: 30
Well for me, I try to go to bed to sleep but can't and I sometimes go days and even weeks that way. I had a sleep study done on myself, they tell me my mind is always working and that most normal people have a slight time in what is called healing sleep, but they told me that my mind and body doesn't do that!
For me it's because of my PTSD in relationship with my CSA.
It's for me like my mind forces me to stay awake and to be aware of things in an attempt to be able to protect myself.
Trust me, I know how it feels to be exhausted also!
You might want to talk to a T about it and maybe they can give you some med's to help you relax or something.
For me, it takes alot stronger kinds of meds that even with those they also at times fail me as well.


#282263 - 04/04/09 11:39 PM ... [Re: jls]
St3v3n Offline

Registered: 11/26/08
Posts: 102

#282281 - 04/05/09 05:12 AM Re: Sleep [Re: St3v3n]
Riley Offline

Registered: 01/11/09
Posts: 599
Loc: USA
I have a huge problem with sleeping. Only you know if this is your problem, but for me it is the nightmares. What I do; is I have a nightlight, a light green light that is made to heat up halls cough tablets to make the room smell like halls. I was also recommended by several members on here to try watching a familiar DVD to help calm you down after getting worked up from a nightmare. Much of my abuse happened in my bedroom at night and I actually conditioned myself to stay awake as a child, which translates into insomnia as an adult.

I don't know if these are your problems or not, but I hope it helped. You can also try typing insomnia into google to get some good sleep habits.

#282362 - 04/05/09 05:45 PM Re: Sleep [Re: Riley]
frozen Offline

Registered: 04/26/07
Posts: 22
Loc: Europe
Nightmares are terrible,i have suffered insomnia 30 long years.
my only option is pills,200mg Ketipinor(quentipine) every night.
With pills i can have somekind of sleep,better than nothing.

#282474 - 04/06/09 05:50 AM Re: Sleep [Re: frozen]
jls Offline

Registered: 03/06/09
Posts: 1142
Hi frozen. It seems I always need something to sleep too. I am afraid to do otherwise, like what you said with the nightmares, but it freaks me out that I can't sleep without some form of chemical aid, which is contributing to my fatigue, yet if I didn't have it in my system I would be left with no sleep at all so its a catch 22. What do I do?

Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.

#282816 - 04/08/09 11:44 PM Re: Sleep [Re: jls]
king tut Offline

Registered: 02/13/08
Posts: 2488
Loc: UK
Yes. sleep is a major problem. Sometimes it gets better and i sleep fine, and even sleep far too much.

But also sometimes i can't sleep because of nightmares, lately that has been more of a problem, because usually i fall dead asleep from exhaustion, but lately i havent been doing enough work to be exhausted.

Most of my abuse took place at night too, either in my room or i would be taken out of my bed and taken to the bathroom or downstairs.

I went to the doctor once for my sleep and he wouldn't help. He did recommend to go for a jog?? (he was an asshole). I don't think pills would work for me anyway, because even if i do feel really sleepy i can still feel too afraid to go to sleep, even though i am not in danger of anything anymore.

Sans Logos (Ron) suggested to me rosemary tea, and it is really really soothing and calming, if you have fresh rosemary in your garden i highly recommend it. I was kind of panicking the other night and it calmed me down, although im sure the fact that i had to get dressed and go venturing in my garden in the dark helped to distract my mind a little too.

Trucker Mark has suggested watching films before, i think he said to watch ones you are familiar with too, and especially if you want to fall to sleep half way through, so you don't stay up to watch the end. I'm mostly familiar with films with Arnold Schwarzenneger in lol, he was my favourite action hero when i was young.

I tend to sleep with either a lamp on, or the main light on. My sleep routine is messed up though, and i hardly ever intend on going to bed, because to me bedtime is difficult- instead i tell myself that i will just lie down for a moment, just to rest, and then i might fall to sleep. If i set a time and say this is bedtime it is too difficult, because of the feelings.

However, if i was to recommend something it would be to follow a ROUTINE. I've been trying to do it, but like i said, it's hard. And also what do you wear to bed? Sometimes that can make a big difference to how well you sleep. One of the challenges is making yourself feel SAFE. Sure, we are adults now, but we still have some of those feelings, and we have to do everything we can to try to make ourselves feel safe. And hey, if you have a teddy, that is ok! i know i have one.

#282859 - 04/09/09 04:59 AM Re: Sleep [Re: king tut]
sojourn111 Offline

Registered: 05/09/08
Posts: 86
Loc: midwest
Sleep? What is sleep? From age 16 to 20 I used porn and mb to doze off late at night. From 18 to 22 I unsuccessfully incorporated alcohol on a regular basis. Safety was a loaded 45 and a 10 gauge alongside my bed. I got married and had to give up those. T got me on journaling and blogging. That helps. Tea is good. My favorite places to sleep were in this missionaries basement. It was safe, dark and a comfortable bed. The 2nd is my wifes aunts house way out in the woods. Anyways, your knock on the topic, sleep is big for PTSD, CSA and more.


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